Hmmm. If you want to take this to the judge, you will need to have evidence in writing or recordings (being aware that in some states wiretapping is illegal.) My ex is too careful with his words to be caught in this way, but I have heard this could be a tactic to consider. I would see what a lawyer in your area says.

Also, if your ex is doing things like slamming doors, it might be grounds for a protection order. My ex did some online bullying. I took a temporary order out. The full order wasn't granted, but we still do all drop offs and pickups at police stations. And we never "speak" but have to email or text everything which keeps a written record.

Record every conversation. It can be used to your benefit. The more proof the better. Write everything down as soon as it happens so you don't forget details or leave anything out.

When I consulted with an attorney a couple of years back, I was advised to save EVERYTHING. Correspond through text/e-mail as much as possible. Recording video/audio can be a bit difficult, because the other party has to know that they are being recorded. Texts and e-mail are different, because the other party knows that this information is recorded through the correspondence.

The judge would, most definitely, take this information into consideration; especially if the ex exhibits this behavior in front of your child. That...is a big no no.

Currently, we are waiting for our conciliation report, before going to hearing. During the conciliation process, I made sure the individual doing the evaluations was informed of the way my ex would speak to me in front of our child, and how he treated me during our relationship. I had text messages to back up my claims, including one he had sent to our child that referred to me in a nasty manner. She called him out on it, and lectured him about how abusive language is not okay; especially, when referring to your child's parent. They make a big deal about co-parenting and communication. So, it's not going to really look good on his part, if you're showing that you have been trying to be an adult about this whole thing, and he has made communication next to impossible.

I seriously hope things go well for you, for your child's sake. Hopefully, the ex will realize that through his actions to try and hurt and upset you, he is hurting your child, and will knock it off.

I went through the same type of abuse all for the same exact reason- child support. I made the mistake of never calling the police for legal documentation. My personal documents turn into allegations that were denied in court. Start by calling the police during these instances and only text/email for communication. Do not go to his place alone. Try to meet at a police station for drop off/pick up, if not please have an escort with you. This will show your fear for you and your child’s safety, and turn the allegations into legal documents. I’m sorry you are going through this....