Just be supportive. Every time I go in, I feel like I want to quit because of the effects, I found that the first few days after are the worst, try stretching lightly in bed, even that little bit helps me feel ok, smoothies instead of food, I can jam pack my fruits and veggies in it and boost my energy, try to get him to join some kind of support group, it helps, I would NEVER talk to someone who didnt understand about the things I am going through.... And rest rest rest! Good luck, I am praying for you and your husband tonight.

Also if your state is a legal state for medical canabis, it helps with the pain, nausea, appetite, it really does help.

Note down the side effects and ask the doctors if there is a treatment for them. What are the side effects specifically? My mum had dry mouth and trouble swallowing - she got medications for that - and very dry skin - she was prescribed medicated bath products and moisturisers. She also found side effects with her finger and toe nails. She found it helped to paint them a very dark colour, sounds weird but apparently the problem is caused when residues of chemo drugs react with sunlight. Not so easy to pass off for a man, maybe he could become a goth lol. She had neuropathy in her feet which again was medicated. Plus the typical nausea. She coped with this by eating small amounts often rather than ploughing through 3 large meals, and drinking huge amounts of water.

Those are the ones I remember but if you could be more specific I might be able to help more.

For depression, would he agree to counselling? Does he have goals, like getting back to work? My mum worked as long as she could through chemo and radio and took minimum time off for surgery and got back to work as soon as she could. She was lucky that her work is flexible and she could do some things from home. If he has goals it might help. For example you could plan a holiday together.

How active is he? Ask to be referred to a physio who can suggest gentle exercises and stretches he could do. If you are lucky enough to have a park or somewhere to walk nearby try to get him out and walking every day even if it is just a stagger around the corner or from the car to the tearoom and back. He may find swimming to be a good form of exercise. Yes rest is important but there is a fine line between resting and sitting brooding all day. Gentle exercise shouldn't cause problems and in fact will probably help him recover as long as you check with his doctors first.

Get him into a routine as much as possible. Try to encourage him to get up every morning and dress. Don't let him lounge around the house in pj's or stay up late and sleep through the day. Try to encourage good sleep patterns.

Make sure he has a healthy diet with plenty of fruit and veg. My mum found that the smells of cooking food made her ill so she ate mainly raw food but she was careful of germs and use by dates etc due to lowered immune system, avoided certain cheeses etc. As I said she ate small amounts often and found the Food Doctor's books very helpful.

Try to keep his mind active. Encourage him to read, listen to audiobooks, do puzzles, crosswords, sudoku, chess, anything he might enjoy that would stimulate his brain.

Hello Lisa, I dont have any advice for you. My better half came down with throat cancer. He will have cemo and radition soon. He doesnt know what to think. Iam his caregiver. If you ever need someone to talk to just say so, and maybe I can give you my number. Karen

cancer,the most fearful diagnosised disease nobody want to hear, well i hear my own diagnosise when i came back right from holiday with my kids,the DR gave me just till esther,which was just 3 weeks away,my chemo started just 2 days later,no time to take it in at all,was still in shock when i started the treatment,belive me,chemo is no fun,and nobody friend at all,losing my hair weeks later,cant stand the smell of food,get very moodin,get depresssion get alot of side effects from the drugs,like my tougn got swellow up,cant eat or drink anything for 4 days,expect by drips,got stomach constipation could not go to toilet for a full week,lost feelings in fingers ,how many can i mention?its dose not feel good,but with prayers,good DRs and love one,i can now say am much better than before,and with the Dr reasurerece i feel good,my hair is coming back,i can eat good now,and am going to revalidation program,i have also join a group,which help us to talk about our problems,that helps alot,
SO try to help yr husband in any way you can,talking with him,go for walks,plan things with him,do things together with him,its not easy for relationships,but with prayers and ALOT OF LOVE,you can overcome alot of prolems,stay strong,hugs xxxxxx

help him to drink alot of water, and milk if he stand it,it help alot,


hugs xxxxx

At least he has you, which I think is nice, since I am stuck with pancreatic cancer, and my last oncologist told me to prepare for death. While I get the feeling not too many people care in my case. In my case I believe 1 of my brothers cares, the other 2 don't seem to care much. My mom cares too. And 1 of my friends cares, and that's about it. I already had an ex girlfriend tell me how much she cares, after she insulted me. I do have 1 other girlfriend who cares but due to distance, she's more of an online relationship. All this leads me to believe is it's a cold hearted world we live in.