It's ok to be attracted to both. They've got different things to offer. When it comes to relationships, just go with your heart. it won't lead you astray. Experimenting is ok too. In the long run, you'll figure it out. Coming out to your parents is a sign you feel strongly about your fiance but not a sign you don't have other feelings as well.

It's hard to be honest sometimes when you don't want to hurt people. My knee jerk reaction has gotten me in some trouble as well. I wonder, if you said you aren't sexual with either one... what's going on?

In your situation; people don't only eat chicken to get their protein; they might have fish, tofu or nuts. Just depends on what they like or are in the mood for, right? As long as they get their protein Therefore, this leads to one thing...you have to be honest with yourself, FIRST, about what you want and what you feel like having. And when you figure that out, be honest with your significant other. Dishonesty is what got the CS here in the first place. Your SO is your friend and in a majority of relationships, should be your best friend. You should not feel there isn't anything you cannot share with him or her. You owe her the truth about your feelings. We are not allowed to make (what could be for some) life changing decisions; and for that reason, you owe him the truth, as well. To decide for our SO is selfish and again, being selfish is yet another reason the CS is here, now.

i agree with zib; coming out to your parents shows your confidence and comfort in your relationship with this female. And also, experimenting is perfectly ok; but NOT at the expense of someone else's feelings because....you probably guessed it; doing what you want at the expense of someone else getting hurt is another reason the CS is here.

My suggestion; be honest to yourself, first. Then, go be honest to your fiance and male friend. They both deserve to know what you are going through and if they really care, they will help you and support you as best they can without encouraging you do go either way (I hope!) but to let you decide for yourself.

I have a friend who was in a similar situation you. She was once married, got divorced, dated men, found she was attracted to women yet still desired a man. The next guy she dated, she decided to give him a special present for his birthday; she brought a female she had been seeing home to him for them to share. He turned it down saying he only wanted his GF for himself, not to share. She stopped dating guys, starting dating a woman and is now happily married to this other woman. The happiness they share; her wife understands and shares the desire to have a man sometimes and they can share that, lovingly, with each other. And no, it isn't/wasn't me.

Like zib said, enjoy your life; experiment; you'll figure out what it is you desire most and will make it the best thing in the world for you and the SO. I wish you the best.

Both- Thanks for your advice. I am definately not looking for anyone else to be with since I am already in a big enough pickle as it is. I already talked to the guy and he is very supportive and only wants to be with one person once he finds the right person. My fiance mentioned a few weeks ago that she is not wanting an open relationship and she will not take the news well. I am just afraid that she will want to leave me even though the guy and I were really only talking and watching a movie. I do care about her. :/

Zibzil- My fiance and I currently live a little over 800 miles apart, and yes we have been together in a sexual way. The guy only lives about 15 miles away from me and we have never kissed, held hands or anything that would suggest we are together in a relationship other than talk to get to know each other better. I just know if things keep going forward with him without my fiance knowing that he and I will probably go too far, eventually.

I have learned that if you are going to hurt someone, hurt them with the truth. They will respect you more for being honest with them; they will look at you differently in that you had the strength to share with them something that could have gotten bad (you were only friends, you weren't talking to have a relationship and you will have to get your fiance to understand that) and the fact that instead of going all the way through with anything, you stopped and respected/honored your relationship with your fiance and gave her the chance to decide if she wants to stay or move on with you.

I understand your being afraid she will want to leave, but you have to not be selfish and respect the fact your fiance does not want an open relationship and you are still unsure you want to settle down with your female fiance or still want the "comforts" only a man can give you.

To me, it sounds like this is the perfect time for some self reflection. Take some time to yourself and get to know who you are again. Learn to love yourself so you can return that love the same way. After some time alone, maybe it will come to you what it is you really want to do.

Thanks. I have really thought about it and come to realize that both men and women "comfort" in the same way. We both have arms, legs, heart and conscience. Some more so than others.

I don't completely understand men as they do not completely understand women. I have never been completely comfortable with men/males and this has been since I was very small. Like 5 or younger.

I always knew I was different and had a feeling for women/females that I just couldn't explain until I knew what it meant. in high school.

Now, no one can tell me who I am or who I am not. Thanks for helping me realize this.