Cheaters Anonymous Community Group
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My H discovered my EA, 4 weeks ago. He found a text message and some pics on my phone. So stupid of me. He has no idea I was intimate with OM, I have adamantly denied any physical contact. I will never tell him because he would find my AP and embarrass me at work and probably assault him. My H tried to call my OM at work several times but gave up because I told him I wanted to fix our M, he was the one I wanted, I very rarely see OM at work and since H left OM a message he has ignored me.
Absolutely NONE of that is true. In fact I also have zero guilt for what I did. I have fallen for OM. The problem is OM has been distant, although he has recently been opening back up to me. Although we haven't had lunch together since the day after my H found out, we did meet for coffee. We admitted we cared about one another but he said he could not get involved with me because I'm married. Understandable.
I've been in IC and MC since this all came out. I'm nearly 100% certain I no longer am in love with my H but I'm giving it one last chance by going to MC. The problem is my heart went somewhere else and my H doesn't know that. My fear is that I will not find someone who will love me like my H does. Too much damage has been done though and I am truly unhappy with him.
I'm at a crossroads here. Do I take the chance at finding my soulmate, who may or may not be my OM, or do I stay in a M where I am miserable but will have security? I'm so unsure of what to do. Does anyone have any words of wisdom for me?
Absolutely NONE of that is true. In fact I also have zero guilt for what I did. I have fallen for OM. The problem is OM has been distant, although he has recently been opening back up to me. Although we haven't had lunch together since the day after my H found out, we did meet for coffee. We admitted we cared about one another but he said he could not get involved with me because I'm married. Understandable.
I've been in IC and MC since this all came out. I'm nearly 100% certain I no longer am in love with my H but I'm giving it one last chance by going to MC. The problem is my heart went somewhere else and my H doesn't know that. My fear is that I will not find someone who will love me like my H does. Too much damage has been done though and I am truly unhappy with him.
I'm at a crossroads here. Do I take the chance at finding my soulmate, who may or may not be my OM, or do I stay in a M where I am miserable but will have security? I'm so unsure of what to do. Does anyone have any words of wisdom for me?
The security that you think you have may weaken in time with every lie you tell. It may be best to talk to your husband and tell him how you feel, he may even feel the same way, and you'd be saving yourself a lot of trouble. You say you're fear is that you may not find someone who will love you like your husband, well there's only one way to find out.
I wish you well.