Cheaters Anonymous Community Group
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My wife's lawyer was stunned by my cooperativeness, especially when I tried to pay her bill for her. The judge kept asking if I was on medication and if I was under coercion. He asked me a series of questions to see if I had the intelligence and mental competence to be in the courtroom. He repeatedly recited the math of what I was willing to do. I gave him repeated, assured answers of yes.
I wronged my wife. She had the legal option to finalize the divorce on the spot. I thank her for her mercy. She had prepared to make this the trial and force the affair partner to testify and all the PI reports presented. She didn't. I thank her for her mercy. She opted to make this a standard divorce with continued support. I thank her for her mercy.
As it was in the beginning, so it is in the end. To be with my wife, I gave up my job, my life, my friends, my family, my life's savings, and everything that was familiar and comfortable. All to be with her.
Now, I willingly give up my home, my hope to ever retire, and any hope of future financial security to ensure that she will not lose the house she loves and the lifestyle she leads.
She told me that my actions, not my words, had healed her by 70% and hugged me.
Was that hug worth half a million dollars? On my unreasonably low for the work salary?
EVERY PENNY.
I wronged my wife. She had the legal option to finalize the divorce on the spot. I thank her for her mercy. She had prepared to make this the trial and force the affair partner to testify and all the PI reports presented. She didn't. I thank her for her mercy. She opted to make this a standard divorce with continued support. I thank her for her mercy.
As it was in the beginning, so it is in the end. To be with my wife, I gave up my job, my life, my friends, my family, my life's savings, and everything that was familiar and comfortable. All to be with her.
Now, I willingly give up my home, my hope to ever retire, and any hope of future financial security to ensure that she will not lose the house she loves and the lifestyle she leads.
She told me that my actions, not my words, had healed her by 70% and hugged me.
Was that hug worth half a million dollars? On my unreasonably low for the work salary?
EVERY PENNY.
Anyway, we spent the day together today and went for a long walk on the trail by the river. It was good. We talked about the easy and we talked about the hard. It was a good mix. Then we had lunch, and it was fine. We stopped at wally world to get some cables and i hooked up her new tv. Talk got serious and she started to let the pain take over and I was ready to leave at her request. Then we started talking again and we left on a positive note.
I'm learning to not push it, and she's learning that what may seem like pushing is just my enthusiasm to heal her and eventually make her happy again.
Arwen, O Arwen, hear the regret of my song.
Please know my lament
Of the message I sent.
What we need is for us to all get along.
I can’t ask my wife for forgiveness. Any to be had will have to come from her unbidden. I can only ask you to forgive me for having thought ill of you.
Please accept my apology for the good of us all.
Right now you are addressing the trauma and being a stand up guy. That was how my H managed to keep me in the rebuilding process for the long time it took. Even during my lowest points I felt a sense of maybe we could get through this.
Thank you all for your help, encouragement and insights. Please try to get along together, after all, this is a team. Remember that it's about love, healing, and encouragement. Please don't take passing references and poor choices of words personally. Embrace joy when you can find it, even in the oddest of places.