Great!! I am happy that you did the right thing. Perhaps this will make doing the right thing the next time easier.
And don't feel sad that you can't have it all. Nobody can really have their cake and eat it too--it is those who try that get into so much trouble. Eventually.

Deep down I believe you're right, but I'm so eaten up by it this morning. Visions/fantasies of female bodies and twisted sheets, etc are plaguing me. Wonder if these are like the DTs of an alcoholic? Don't they dream/visualize the bottles? Leaving behind the thrill-filled sexual adventurism that made me feel alive is not seeming easy or even desirable at the moment.

Argh

I wonder the same. I have to believe it goes away......but I can tell you.....each new temptation is just that.....(at least for me, now), a "new" temptation.

I was in the thick of things today and survived. I had to meet with my exAP one on one to finalize a list of students. After we were finished working, he said he was going to take a nap on his classroom couch. He threw down his pillow and said, "I'll just leave this right here." I knew that he was implying that I join him. I picked up my things and left rather than stay. If I had stayed, I would have without a doubt "taken a nap" with him.

Score one for me!

YAY!!!! This is great!!! I am happy for you Teacher that you were able to refuse his invitation. The next time it will probably be easier. Hopefully, though, you discouraged him today and he won't continue to relentlessly pursue you, though that ight be asking a bit much this early on.

But let's tell it like it is. Sure teacher, and please know I get it..... Been there hundreds of times...... You did great. But this is a guy who you said wasn't flirting and respectful of your boundaries since you told him you are working on your marriage and within a week he's fluffing the pillow.
MOST OM ...... They are alike (sorry guys) .... You have now become a challenge.... You are now the huntee.
And that's awesome you/we said 'no'..... But all those hunters just waiting in the bushes to strike again and maybe when we are a little more vulnerable. Each time is different. It's an incredibly hard process, but not impossible. You are doing the right thing.

Well done Teacher and Timothyfreeman!! Teacher this guy is a total douche! he thinks he's got you wrapped around his finger, you've become a challenge again and that excites him. He cares only about himself obviously. DON'T do it, just don't give him that satisfaction. He'll eventually get the picture and prey on someone else.

Kudos to you teacher.
I'll be honest, though, I'm worrying for you. You've shown strength and fortitude, but the amount of professional contact you have and the clear attachments and temptations you feel for him seem to sound like a recipe for eventual disaster...

Maybe you're stronger than me (you probably are), but I know the proximity and constant pressure would break me!

Is there no way you can transfer or take a long vacation or otherwise remove yourself from the situation? If not can you at least find a safe friend at work who can watch your back like a hawk? It's not to protect you from the hunter but to protect you from yourself!!

I haven't seen any transfer opportunities but at this point I wouldn't leave unless it was an opportunity that would further my career. Other than the obvious that I have to deal with, I am in a really good spot: great staff and administrators are hard to come by. In terms of a long vacation, no, I can't do that. I live on my own and need to support myself. I am not confident in my marriage enough to live with my H again.

Yes, his invitation to join him certainly is pushing beyond my boundary. He's testing me and I know why. We did this dance last year and both gave in.

Exactly--he is pushing you. If this happens again, remember that he has made the decision to continually push your boundaries, instead of respecting those boundaries and you. He is looking for a way to prey on you despite your wishes to get what he wants. This is disrespect in its highest form. He will try to wear you down.

Awareness is the first step to being stronger. I wish you well.

The aftermath of my close call: It's been a few days for things to settle down, but I am still racked with doubts and mixed desires. In my heart of hearts I know I want to live the pure life of wholesomeness, but that pure life seems so far away with a W who is distant and angry but that pure life seems so far away with a W who is distant and angry and shows very few signs of wishing to forgive or reconnect. I know, it's only been 6 months, but this would be such an easier choice if there was a brighter light at the end of the tunnel.
I hate how self-pitying I sound but it's there and I can't deny it You guys probably understand

The "willing victim" reached out via email two days ago, nothing flirty or anything but we all know how THAT goes... I couldn't help myself and replied back with a vague reference to the tortue I'd gone through in resisting her advances.
Give me good advice!
There is so much of me that is tempted to give up my family and live a life like a honeybee, flitting from flower to flower. Deep inside I know I'd be miserable. How do I erase this desire?

"There is so much of me that is tempted to give up my family and live a life like a honeybee, flitting from flower to flower. Deep inside I know I'd be miserable. How do I erase this desire?"

I wish I knew.......