It gets better with time. Maybe you could do the NC post everyday. I'm about to do one now!

Not my thing to make a NC thread every day , now.

Maybe I might change my mind in future.

No problem. It's just a way to remind yourself to stay strong!

Time, time and more time. One day you realize you didn't think about the OP for 10 min, then 1 hour....time

My withdrawals were horrible I couldn't sleep eat carry on a conversation without crying I literally wanted to die. Headache nausea restless legs you name it it was happening. We had no contact for years and I promise that it gets easier. You think of your ap and sometimes it's good and sometimes it's bad it doesn't stay as painful, and it doesn't happen as often. My ap was my first adult love I really thought I could never function without him. But I did and I was able to be happy and not hurt every single day because he wasn't in my life. I promise the longer you go the easier it gets.

Thank you everyone for your input.

I really like Bratty's post.

It really does get better with time, but it's hard to feel that when you're going through it. I ended things multiple times before I ended them for good. I couldn't eat and I would cry all the time each time it was over; I felt numb. Seeing an therapist is what helped me break it off for good, but I still thought about him for a long time. I started doing guided meditations to help me feel my real pain and understand why I was in the A. For me it was an escape, and once I knew that, I was able to focus on my real problems. Tara Brach's Emotional Healing and Radical Acceptance have been very healing for me.

Prior to my withdrawals, I've always been a very mellow easy going person.

Today is the 1st day I've noticed that I'm irritable and I'm prone to snapping at people.

So far, I haven't snapped at anyone yet.

I got to be extremely vigilant with this one because I work in the customer service industry and snapping at guest are an ABSOLUTE NO NO.

I don't know if I would classify what I went through as withdrawal symptoms exactly, but I went through a time of such deep pain and remorse, despair, sadness, I cried my way through each and every day for well over a year. A lot of the pain was indeed related to OM but also to my H, my M and myself as I felt so broken. There were physical aspects to it. I could feel the pain physically in my chest and my stomach. Sometimes I just felt achy in general. I never knew someone could hurt and suffer so badly and keep on functioning and those around me didn't even know anything was different. If they did know, they never said anything. I can still feel the pain and sadness like a sore muscle that isn't quite totally healed yet but it is nothing like it was before; almost crippling. It's been 2 yrs and 4 mos since Dday.

I felt physically sick when my AP ended things. I cried every day, couldn't get out of bed most days and would wake up every day at 2am or 5am with obsessive thoughts about him. It's been almost two months and some days I feel like my old self, some days I feel sad from guilt. It gets easier with time, but it takes a long time. I truly thought it wouldn't take me that long to get over this, because it was so short lived and not serious. Now I think I am dealing with the guilt more than missing him. I do a lot of guided meditations to help me control my thoughts, some days they work, some days it's just easier to give in to the sadness and feel the feelings.

Thank you everyone for your responses.

Good stuff.

Bump for the newcomers having trouble with withdrawals.

Hey, thanks for the bump, Stayaway. I hadn't seen this thread before. Maybe I'm just an odd duck, but all these symptoms, inability to concentrate, constant edge of tears, forgetfulness, irritability, fainting spells, loss of appetite, hopelessness, loss of libido, desolation, insomnia, are from being away from my wife.

Sure, I miss my friend (affair partner) to talk to, joke with, and run little errands with, but not being with my wife, having her throw me away, and knowing it's my fault and how I've hurt her without meaning to is what's tearing me to pieces.

My withdrawls were a broken heart, because even though I ended it, I was in love with him.

I'm at 85 days of NC now here is a general breakdown of what I went through month by month.

1) First month, nearly EVERYDAY was torture.

2) Second month ---some days are better than others . Some days are better than others with a lot of smooth days. Some days are still torturous.

3) Third month --- some days are better than others. A lot of smooth days. Some days are still as torturous as ever.