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iv been the cheater now am scared

marie32
marie32
iv cheated on a few men iv been with as they was no good and they also cheated on me now iv met a man 12yrs younger than me and am scared i really like him but i dont trust him how do i start i check his phone we have been together dont laugh 2 weeks i want to try to trust him iv told him i cant he told me to try and that he likes me and the only one his with is me how do i trust can anyone help thank you
deleted_user
deleted_user
Tzrust takes time to build. If you rush too much, like I've done, the foundation can never be built. Take things as slow as possible, and dont check his phone or acuse him of anything unless you are 100 % sure. Doing that only shows signs of insecurity. Alot of men see insecurity as a sign of weakness, and if they see you as weak, thye are more likely to take advantage of you. Hope that helps!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Marie,
I echo the take it slow advice. You are freaking out after 2 weeks? What is his age? 12 Yrs is less relative the older You guys are. Remember that there are still good people out there and people that have reformed there ways never to cheat again. Certainly if there are signs from the beginning that this guy is a cheater, why bother, but 2 weeks in, I'm not sure you can really form an opinion, nor have you invested enough time that you should be that paranoid about cheating.

~SS
lebe
lebe
may partner always told me..... the only reason you ever freak out or get jealous is because you know how bad YOU are, and you think it's a norm. Unfortunately, he's probably correct.

All i would say is never let him see that you are insecure.

Always be cool, confindent, calm. That is sexy. People could debate this, but I'd say' BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE'. Make a plan on how you want to act and live by that..... others will disgree though....

Even if you check his phone, never let him know it. 12 years is a big difference in life experience.......

I can't underantd this as much, as i usually like older men....