My former AP used to act perplexed about women interpreting his behavior as flirtatious or seductive, but when it keeps happening, it's totally you! ;)

Abetterman......I think of my AP every single day.....every day.....and its been that long.....and although he may no longer care/have an interest/or may not think of me......I think of affairs or having one....every single day....every day......its almost just something I accept.....but I keep the mojo: Its just not worth it.....

As for people thinking something......I will admit....sometimes I feel like if I just push that envelope a little farther......sometimes the glance is a bit too long......sometimes that 'hmmm....did I just suggest that in less than a joking fashion' then I immediately change direction, body language, tone......oops my bad! Still don't want it....not for real anyway......

It sucks doesn't it? I wonder if I never became cheater I would be like this.....I certainly wasn't like this when I was the 'good wife'. LOl

@Graving girl: I know it's me. I smile too long or look too obviously. Can't help it...

@shoreline: Very well said! That is how I feel everyday.

Leaving, it's natural to flirt. It's a validation thing. Just don't take it to the next level.

In a practical sense, the next level is such a major hassle, risk, and vacuum of time, energy, and money anyway.