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Looking4Help
Looking4Help


I cheated on my husband with two of his cousins and two friends. But with one cousin and friend they only stick it in and didn't pump. But the other cousin happened about 7 times within 5yrs. And one friend 1 time. The years between 2008-2013 And I would text random guys and send pics and text inappropriate stuff. YES, I know this it not rite. Well hubby had enough and left Feb 3 2016 and hasn't been home since. But he hasn't got a place of his own which I think is good. And we are going Thur marriage counseling. So my advice is do you think it can work out if we are both trying? Again I know what I did was wrong so keep ur nasty comments to urself. Just looking for advice.Well therapy is doing good for us hubby said I'm a priority and that the marriage counseling is a priority's. So that's always good too hear. Like hubby says I didn't cheat overnight he cant forgive me overnight. And am still working on myself. So that all good things I think.


 

sexysub56
sexysub56
You must make the choice not only to be faithful, but to be completely transparent. Ask him what you can do make it up to him.
CloverMoon
CloverMoon
they only stick it in and don't pump? Are you kidding me? Keep my nasty comments to myself??? Honey, you don't need Cheater Anonymous.....you need professional therapy...big time! Way to keep it "all in the family"
CloverMoon
CloverMoon
Please disregard my last post. It was very insensitive. But, I still think you need a therapist.
Looking4Help
Looking4Help
Am going too a therapist!!
gravinggirl
gravinggirl
IMO, the exact sexual details don't matter. It was all cheating, and it involved highly risky people who were close to your husband. I don't think you did it because you are a bad person, but there are reasons you did it (some need - probably not even a sexual need when it comes down to it - was fulfilled, or maybe you don't feel worthy of setting boundaries to protect yourself). Keep up with therapy, and be brutally honest with yourself so you can decide how to take steps forward.
Sornae
Sornae
My husband told me today that he wants a divorce. It's barely been two months since he discovered my affair. It was with someone who was a stranger to him and it lasted six months. He has not gotten his own apartment yet but i know it's over. Your husband sounds like he still wants to try after all this time and freer everything you've done. Be open with him. Help him to build trust in you. It looks promising if you're really willing to make it work. I wish you the best.
gravinggirl
gravinggirl
I'm sorry, Sornae :(