Cheaters Anonymous Community Group
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I mentioned about the group I belonged to and that we are having an event at my house in a month and a half. Well, our group has a closed Facebook discussion group. I created an event post for the event, but opened up the event post to group members plus friends. I want to invite my neighbors, for example.
Anyway, my narc has 'sock puppets'. He will not admit they are him, but I (and others) have figured it out. His writing style gives it away, as do the characteristics of his puppets. He likes to use these to troll. So his puppet posted a long rant on the event post about why he wouldn't attend. I asked him to move it to a new thread, as our friends could see the event post. The post disappeared. Sock puppet later came on calling me a racist (which did not even fit the circumstance...sock puppet and I are the same race) and accusing me of removing his post. Said he would take the group down in 24 hrs. Said I was transparent and weak. I told him I did not remove his post (he removed it himself). I also said that I knew who the puppet master was and didn't know why he was doing this, but I could not do anything about it if he wanted to take the group down. So then narc posts as himself, said somebody else had asked if it was him, but he did not have a clue who it was. He then said he was banning sock puppet from the group (he, like me and a couple others, is an admin).
WTF? I can see the amusement to be had playing the troll with a sock puppet, but why did he pick on me? He was the one who said something hurtful to me last Saturday. He has no reason to be upset with me...plus, he was the main driver behind this event in the first place! How do I get through these next six weeks?
Anyway, my narc has 'sock puppets'. He will not admit they are him, but I (and others) have figured it out. His writing style gives it away, as do the characteristics of his puppets. He likes to use these to troll. So his puppet posted a long rant on the event post about why he wouldn't attend. I asked him to move it to a new thread, as our friends could see the event post. The post disappeared. Sock puppet later came on calling me a racist (which did not even fit the circumstance...sock puppet and I are the same race) and accusing me of removing his post. Said he would take the group down in 24 hrs. Said I was transparent and weak. I told him I did not remove his post (he removed it himself). I also said that I knew who the puppet master was and didn't know why he was doing this, but I could not do anything about it if he wanted to take the group down. So then narc posts as himself, said somebody else had asked if it was him, but he did not have a clue who it was. He then said he was banning sock puppet from the group (he, like me and a couple others, is an admin).
WTF? I can see the amusement to be had playing the troll with a sock puppet, but why did he pick on me? He was the one who said something hurtful to me last Saturday. He has no reason to be upset with me...plus, he was the main driver behind this event in the first place! How do I get through these next six weeks?
Your best bet is to ignore him and take all the energy that is wasted on him and focus it on your Self. The important question is this: what is it about you that leaves you vulnerable to a man like him? What can you do to shore up that vulnerability?