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Usually I can just go about my business at work and not think about accidental contact. I'm highly mobile in my job and make a lot of "house calls" to computers all throughout our wing of the building. She just stays in her seat. Today, I made 3 conscious avoidance maneuvers.
1 - She was filling a bottle at the drinking fountain outside the bathrooms. Even without my glasses on, I recognized the sweater. Normally, I cut through the narrow passage at the bathrooms to cut 4 steps of my trip. Using my ninja skills and the Maktar stealth haze (Galaxy Quest reference... rent it. It's great) I took the more open and traveled route by the executive offices. Evasion successful.
2 - I went out to run an errand for lunch at a time different from my usual. I have that freedom. Her department has fixed lunch periods for each individual (apparently, only more or less) I was confident she wouldn't be heading to lunch. I was wrong. She was with a group of people heading out the central door and into the elevator. I was about 40 feet behind. One of the beneficial aspects of my sudden and drastic weight loss (25 lbs in 2 months from stress, depression, and basic loss of will to live) is that I now move like lightning. I was fast before, but now, wow! I accelerated, slipped through the side door, and got to the first floor and out the northwest door before the elevator even reached the first floor. I didn't run and I wasn't breathing hard; I just take corners and change speeds really fast. Evasion successful.
3 - I was speaking with a woman who knows about 2/3 of the situation near a bay opening by the copier room in hushed tones. We were on the subject of the affair partner when who should suddenly appear to retrieve a hard copy? Yup. We moved the conversation to her desk before the affair partner left the copy room. Evasion 40% successful.
While it would be very satisfying to let the affair partner know that she has cost me over half a million dollars in alimony (35% of my current gross salary for the next 30 years plus half 401k plus half pension) and that I can't even start to think of retiring until I'm at least 83, not to mention the loss of the love of my life, I am honoring the pact of non-contact.
My solace is that my wife will be safely living in her dream house that we built together in love and could barely afford. I've been poor before, I can do it again.
1 - She was filling a bottle at the drinking fountain outside the bathrooms. Even without my glasses on, I recognized the sweater. Normally, I cut through the narrow passage at the bathrooms to cut 4 steps of my trip. Using my ninja skills and the Maktar stealth haze (Galaxy Quest reference... rent it. It's great) I took the more open and traveled route by the executive offices. Evasion successful.
2 - I went out to run an errand for lunch at a time different from my usual. I have that freedom. Her department has fixed lunch periods for each individual (apparently, only more or less) I was confident she wouldn't be heading to lunch. I was wrong. She was with a group of people heading out the central door and into the elevator. I was about 40 feet behind. One of the beneficial aspects of my sudden and drastic weight loss (25 lbs in 2 months from stress, depression, and basic loss of will to live) is that I now move like lightning. I was fast before, but now, wow! I accelerated, slipped through the side door, and got to the first floor and out the northwest door before the elevator even reached the first floor. I didn't run and I wasn't breathing hard; I just take corners and change speeds really fast. Evasion successful.
3 - I was speaking with a woman who knows about 2/3 of the situation near a bay opening by the copier room in hushed tones. We were on the subject of the affair partner when who should suddenly appear to retrieve a hard copy? Yup. We moved the conversation to her desk before the affair partner left the copy room. Evasion 40% successful.
While it would be very satisfying to let the affair partner know that she has cost me over half a million dollars in alimony (35% of my current gross salary for the next 30 years plus half 401k plus half pension) and that I can't even start to think of retiring until I'm at least 83, not to mention the loss of the love of my life, I am honoring the pact of non-contact.
My solace is that my wife will be safely living in her dream house that we built together in love and could barely afford. I've been poor before, I can do it again.
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It happens.
gettingahead
I'm trying to find something, well, nice to say but...this is bizarre. I think somewhere deep down you still care for this woman seeing how you used your Ninja skills to navigate around her and all. And no, it isn't all her fault what happened. I'm sure she's not proud of it either.
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