I'm the sole caregiver for my mother and s-father. It's not a good situation. I'm a nurse, but am on disability myself for severe chronic pain conditions. I moved in with them a few years ago when I lost everything b/c I could no longer work and lost everything including my home. They were in good health then. Now they're both in VERY poor health and do nothing. I've tried to keep up with their house, but my pain is so bad. I'm also VERY depressed and now having panic attacks. I can't have any friends come into the house or date. My mom doesn't like people (lol...) and my s-dad is very verbally sexually inappropriate to anyone (esp. female) who comes into the house. It's a mess. My s-dad has stopped doing anything around the house and lays on the sofa ALL day every day until he goes to bed. My mom sits at the kitchen table ALL day every day, smoking and drinking Diet Coke. She no longer seems to have any emotion and doesn't talk to me or anyone else anymore. I'm an only child but do have two step-sisters, neither of who will help at all. I'm totally alone! My health is failing me terribly. I'm having stomach pains, feel so weak, exhausted, anxious, etc... I'm not functioning anymore. I've become mostly agoraphobic! I feel I have NO life of my own and never will again. I want to move out so badly but have no income to speak of to do so. Disability doesn't pay much. I'm not eligable for ANY Assistance. I've tried 4+ times and have been denied. I'm $200 over the poverty level income limit. I have no will to live like this anymore. I'm going to call the Office of Aging very soon. If my mom and s-dad cannot stay in their house and need to sell, I'll be homeless. I have no other family. Still, they need help badly. I did have Meals on Wheels for them but my mom cancelled them. Now she agree's that she needs them again, so I'll call to arrange that again. I get SO anxious when I have to go out of my room that I rent from them.... It's not tha I don't love them, but I honestly feel I can't take much more. I also have a dog and a cat that are my lifelines, that I know I'll be heartbroken if I lose them. I'm at a loss. Any support, suggestions, etc... would be greatly appreciated.
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