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I had been getting, several very helpful replies of support to my She Waits For Me thread.
Before it was closed, I said that I would start a new thread after my weekend with mom
Here it is.
It was my birthday yesterday. My brother decided that we should bring in supper, to my mom's facility. When we got there I asked mom if she remembered what day it was. That was a really stupid question because I should have known that she wouldn't remember.
My brother did bring a card for mom to sign and give to me. She seemed pleased with that.
One of mom's favorites is Kentucky Fried Chicken so we brought that in.
Mom seemed to enjoy her meal but didn't want us to go. I was with my brother and he just left. There was no staff around but I went too,.
When I went this morning she seemed to recognize me. For their activity this morning they were supposed to tell stories about some of the pictures that they had iin albums.
When it came to pictures of my dad, she had no idea who he was. She didn't even recognize his name. She didn't even recognize their 25 anniversary picture. I told her that I remembered him and she replied that he looked kind and that she would like to learn more about him.
It was a very unhappy marriage but I told her that they were very happy together. She liked that and said that she wanted to know more about him.
Will give us something to talk about on our visits. .
Before it was closed, I said that I would start a new thread after my weekend with mom
Here it is.
It was my birthday yesterday. My brother decided that we should bring in supper, to my mom's facility. When we got there I asked mom if she remembered what day it was. That was a really stupid question because I should have known that she wouldn't remember.
My brother did bring a card for mom to sign and give to me. She seemed pleased with that.
One of mom's favorites is Kentucky Fried Chicken so we brought that in.
Mom seemed to enjoy her meal but didn't want us to go. I was with my brother and he just left. There was no staff around but I went too,.
When I went this morning she seemed to recognize me. For their activity this morning they were supposed to tell stories about some of the pictures that they had iin albums.
When it came to pictures of my dad, she had no idea who he was. She didn't even recognize his name. She didn't even recognize their 25 anniversary picture. I told her that I remembered him and she replied that he looked kind and that she would like to learn more about him.
It was a very unhappy marriage but I told her that they were very happy together. She liked that and said that she wanted to know more about him.
Will give us something to talk about on our visits. .
Have you considered talking to someone about your feelings? You might benefit from a little professional help to deal with the feelings of loss you are dealing with. Also sounds like a little guilt which is normal. It won't change anything but might make it a little easier for you.
I had been talking to her for several years about coping with mom.
Then our time was up and I have to cope with things myself.
I have suffered from depression for many years and had a therapist of my own, pretty well constantly.
That also ended so I am kind of on my own. I see my pdoc in a few weeks so I will see if he can maybe refer me to another therapist.
Posting and reading comments from this site, is also very helpful. Both my own posts and learning of others' stories.
Glad you had a birthday card from mom.