Does anyone would think it would be beneficial to contact an elder lawyer??

Get a notebook - one of those marble ones is great for this. This will be your diary. NUMBER THE PAGES.
Write down each days events. You can "catch up" using the first few pages.

Get a written copy of the PT report.
Get written copies of all diagnosis and procedures, medications, everything that had to be done for mom while in hospital. Many these days force elders to ask for help to the bathroom EVERY TIME. That is valuable information for you to use. You can NOT all alone help mom to the bathroom 24/7.

Write out your observations about her
***behaviors,
***abilities,
***needs and anything else that SHE NEEDS.
NOTE all improvements and deterioration's during this hospital stay as compared to others.
Write out consequences of previous releases in such manner.
Write out YOUR NEEDS as well. All these things have to be considered. Compose them in a written form that you can present to each of the below. Having something is writing is always a good way to document things.

Send letters certified return receipt. Save all receipts from the Post Office and the return receipt showing someone received these.

Contact hospital administration. Explain the above and ask them to start a case to move her to either rehab or a permanent facility. IN my opinion, either will help you. Rehab has to evaluate her ability to "go home". They don't get to simply discharge her.

Most hospital have a social services department. Contact them. Explain your observations and her needs and your needs. Go to them personally and demand a private meeting where you explain that your mom needs to receive proper care beyond what can be provided by you alone.

Contact the state department of elder services. This is elder abuse. She has the RIGHT to appropriate care in an appropriate facility. Start a case if that seems helpful.

Is she on medicare/medicaid? Every hospital is required to provide information on how to challenge a discharge. Contact them and challenge. Find out where to send a copy of the letter.

I'd contact a lawyer experienced in elder abuse as well.

DO ALL OF THESE!

Then refuse to pick her up. Explain to the hospital that you will refuse to take her home. Explain to the charge nurse on mom's floor that you refuse to take her home.

If the office of aging can't get it done it time, then refuse to take her home until they make the appropriate arrangements. It is amazing how things will speed up. They can not FORCE you to remove her under the situation where you have describe a dangerous situation under which they are releasing her.

When my dad was being released, the hospital bed was late. Nurses wanted me to take him home, I simply left the hospital. They called and I told them it had not arrived and I would be there just as soon as it did arrive.

Good luck. May I put you in my prayers?

This is normal negotiation. Women are taught to be NICE. We think that standing our ground is NOT nice. But the truth is that people negotiate all the time.

Remain calm and you will have more power with these folks.

By all means contact a lawyer to help you understand your rights! Or more importantly your MOTHER'S rights!

yes I would dispute discharge as too soon....that is allowable...

We had an excellent experience with an elder care lawyer. But it was VERY expensive.

If your Mom does fall and break something Medicare will pay for 90 days in rehab.

Don't mean to sound harsh but if she DOES break a hip she prolly wont last long after.

My Mom had a great life. Died at age 94 four days after falling and breaking a hip.

So yeah. I am not one to sugar coat things.

Getting old sucks both for the parent and the adult child.

They are GOING to fall sometime.

I would contact an elder law attorney also. You'll have to file an appeal on her discharge date. There will be attorney fees and probably out of pocket expenses with the facility during the appeal.

Our elder care lawyer was great. She made sure nothing went wrong with my parent's estate. But it cost us about 17K.

Ouch Liz! That's painful. Worth the $'s though.

Yes. She was awesome and definitely worth every penny. Thanks to her help with our financial planning it is unlikely any of our family will ever need to stress over finances.

Financial planning is very important. Good for you and your family.

Yep! My parents were just about to ruin all of us financially when my DH rode in on his white horse and saved the day. We took over their finances, hired the lawyer and moved them in with us.

We had them both for a few weeks than Dad went to a locked facility as he was beginning to wander.

Mom died last July after falling and breaking a hip.

Dad died Thanksgiving of 2014.

Yes My parents are gone but I stay on this site hoping to help people from falling in a hole.

Don't wait to do the hard stuff until it is too late and everyone is going broke.

Have the tough conversations and take control.

We talked my mother into meeting with our financial planner a few years back. She's much happier with him than whom she had before.

She has a real financial head on her shoulders still. She reads those statements every month I'll tell you. She has a habit of reading mine too when she picks up the mail. "Oh sorry, I thought that was mine".... agghhhmmmmmmm

LOL PD!

Well I hopefully have some good news. I told the social worker that the office of aging is willing to offer assistance through their Nursing Home Transition program. He told me that the Nursing Home Transition Program only gets involved when a patient is there at least 90 days. So I have to fill out paperwork to get medicaid to pay for the 90 days. So right now it looks like my mom will be there for a while until we the Nursing Home Transition program can have supports in place for her to come home.

Wow I would like to get an elder attorney, but we don't have any money. I can't afford 1K let alone $17K.

Thank you BrightSide987 for your wonderful advice. I appreciate you taking the time out to write that for me. Though I want to clear up one thing. She is currently in a rehab. It's a bizarre situation. There's nothing physically wrong with my mom, but her mobility is restricted due to a paralyzing fear of falling. So they figured there is nothing left to do as her problems are mental.