Caring For Aging Parents Support Group
Caring for aging parents can be a difficul time as we become the caretakers for our parents. This broad responsibility can encompass such services as assisted living, adult day care, long term care, nursing homes, hospice care, and in-home care. Whether you have just started caring for your parents or just need a place to talk, we're here.
I want to ask you how I should handle this and has this happened to anyone else? My mom moved to the state we live in once dad died. She lives in a senior village and seems to be having a good time. We have our best friends living next door. We've always done things together - like fires at night, going out to dinner etc. But all that has changed. A couple of times we've made plans to do something and I want to include my mom. She knows this couple and they get along fine. Finally I was told that they preferred just us, not my mom. Well, she's 85 and all I've got, so I refuse to hurt her by leaving her out. So now I feel like we've lost the best friends we've ever had. Plus my mom keeps inviting all of us to her house for a game night. They went once but keep making excuses why they can never come again. I'm sure my husband hasn't realized yet what is going on. I'm not sure how he'd react, which is sad to me. Are our former friends being really mean or am I being stupid for wanting my mom along? She's physically able to walk and sit and have a lively conversation. Anyone here have any ideas or advice....?
The ones I have now, let me bring her once or twice but that was it.
They don't like her.
Now she's in a home and nobody but me visits her. All her friends have died, and the ones that haven't won't go to see her.
We want our moms along, to see them be happy and smile, that makes us smile. But our friends don't see it that way, they want friends their own age, not our parents. It is a catch 22, either you lose your friends or hurt your mom. I gave up my friends, not sure if that was the right thing to do, but I just couldn't hurt my mom.
There must be some king of compromise or alternative.
Good luck, and let me know how it turns out. I hope you don't lose your friends.
I would do things with your friends and do things with your mom. The only time I would mix the two is when there are more people involved like a holiday or celebration.
It sounds like your mom has her own social group where she lives so she is not lonely. I'm sure her friends would not want you around all the time either.
It makes me really sad and angry that your "friends" would stop speaking to you over something that seems so petty to me.
My Mom is welcomed wherever we go and she so enjoys getting out