Caring For Aging Parents Support Group
Caring for aging parents can be a difficul time as we become the caretakers for our parents. This broad responsibility can encompass such services as assisted living, adult day care, long term care, nursing homes, hospice care, and in-home care. Whether you have just started caring for your parents or just need a place to talk, we're here.
just wanted to write a little tonight to let off some emotion it's always really intense now that i have started trying to care for mom. so many huge issues coming up.. mom's health and care, family crap, job, where i will live, etc. i have periods during the day of extreme rage and depression and then can usually calm down by yelling for a while or gettig out of the house for a walk but it is always there just under the surface. i feel sorry for myself for having such an unhappy life. i'm trying to find a way out for myself while at the same time as taking care of mom but it's really hard. looking for a caregiver support group and so far havne't found on locally. i am thinking of starting one once i decide where to live. has anyone on here been part of a caregiver support group in their town or have you started one? i'm finding this extremely challenging esp. since my siblings are both very minimally involved. it's hard to find any hope or meaning in my life. i think of death a lot as a way out of suffering. i called the suicide hotline today just to talk to someone. people generlaly don't seem to like me. i don't make friends. this has been a life long problem. i reach out and often no one reaches back. i am grateful for this site though. thank goodness people here have responded kindly to me. that means a lot. still, i feel like i need to find people in "real life" though if i am going to make it through this.
Also look on meetup.com for local groups for variety of support topics and hobbies.
Oh and you're the better of your siblings.
You've gotten some good advice about self-care. I think we all know we need it, but I've discovered that I actually have to make myself do it, i.e., put it on the weekly schedule and let my loved ones know that I'm not available. For example, I've had to tell my elder loved one that I can spend Saturday or Sunday afternoon with her but not both, and then gently remind her when she tries to make plans for both days. I usually use my alone time to enjoy the house to myself, binge watch shows that my husband doesn't like, and catch up on my own to-do list so that I can go into the next week feeling (somewhat!) saner.
Be gentle with yourself, and don't be afraid to start setting some boundaries. Easier said than done, I know, but well worth it for your own well-being, and for your relationships, as well. God bless!