I ended up yelling at her two days ago and again today. Same subject. She asked me to get quotes for home insurance. She wants to lower the cost. With brother living at home all the time instead of part time makes it harder. He hears conversation or sees the quotes I mail to mom. I got. Quotes. Some companies said shed in backyard has to be in good condition to insure home. I think it isnt but not sure. I write that on paper I send with each quote. Who shed condition matters to and who doesn't. Mother says brother got all upset about that. When he is upset he makes your life misersble until he calms down. Screaming and yelling. Mom says in a reasonable voice. When you send the quotes this time dont mention the shed. Like she was requesting something normal. In another conversation she told me brother didnt like quotes. He said you cant rent a place for that little money if you have to leave house for a while if fire or damage to house. Wanted much more money for liability. More like what house is insured for now. Wanted as close to what each catagorie is insured for now but at lot lower price. Can't talk to him. Logic does't work on him or mom much even. She tried to talk to him. He just gets agitated and extremely upset. So now she wants me to see how close I can get to what she is insured for now. And send new quotes. And do not write what company will come in house to inspect. That got him worked up. Mom was somewhat upset by end of latest conversation. When i question she is going to decide her insurance by what brother wants. She says she cant take his anger and yelling and upset at her age. She has been letting him run her life for 25 or more years. I was relaxed and calm before first conversation. But got angry awfully fast. How do i distance myself emotionally. And stop the anger?
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