Caring For Aging Parents Support Group
Caring for aging parents can be a difficul time as we become the caretakers for our parents. This broad responsibility can encompass such services as assisted living, adult day care, long term care, nursing homes, hospice care, and in-home care. Whether you have just started caring for your parents or just need a place to talk, we're here.
Big step from Mom. We were at the license branch getting title work done. She looks at the lady and says "may I get an I.D. rather than license?"
They said you will have to sign your understanding that you are giving up privileges to drive. She was fine with it. Fine?
At first, I thought Mom was going to lay into me, as before, about taking her car away. My nephew will be gifted this car soon and has kept it away from her(the only thing anyone has done for her but it is a nice car to be receiving free)
So, Mom drove her entire life with no accidents or tickets. Not even a parking ticket. She was just lucky on the speed part. Trust me :) Too bad there isnt an award or something for this.
I was sad for a day or so because the car was such independence for her always. She loved to run some errand early mornings. Found shoppers to visit with and store workers to get to know. It is just how she was. No close friends in the house or to pal around with. Both my parents were like this yet they new a lot of people.
Now that I write, perhaps she forgets to be upset about the car and not driving anymore? She is still able to b-tch about everything else though.
Like all the fireworks. She wanted the noise to stop by 9PM LOL
Happy 4th to you and yours
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They said you will have to sign your understanding that you are giving up privileges to drive. She was fine with it. Fine?
At first, I thought Mom was going to lay into me, as before, about taking her car away. My nephew will be gifted this car soon and has kept it away from her(the only thing anyone has done for her but it is a nice car to be receiving free)
So, Mom drove her entire life with no accidents or tickets. Not even a parking ticket. She was just lucky on the speed part. Trust me :) Too bad there isnt an award or something for this.
I was sad for a day or so because the car was such independence for her always. She loved to run some errand early mornings. Found shoppers to visit with and store workers to get to know. It is just how she was. No close friends in the house or to pal around with. Both my parents were like this yet they new a lot of people.
Now that I write, perhaps she forgets to be upset about the car and not driving anymore? She is still able to b-tch about everything else though.
Like all the fireworks. She wanted the noise to stop by 9PM LOL
Happy 4th to you and yours
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Good thing too; she could have been another person who drove into a crowd of people and caused a terrible accident.
I am so happy that your mom made the move herself. That takes a TON of pressure off you.
Is there any other way for your mom to get out? Bus or taxi? Without the expense of a car she should be able to afford some cabs. I like that option because the cab company would be a level of safety getting to know mom and where she lives.
I thought the car thing was going to be a wrestle away from Mom kinda thing too. Am happy she decided on her own. However, I believe her visit to DR a couple weeks ago has something to do with it also :)
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"look back" including its Fair Market value at time of sale/gift anyway?
The gifted auto I thought could be helpful at tax time? We also have a vehicle needing repair that was Dad's. Hoping to donate this to a program that refurbishes good used vehicles. This plan I am certain is a tax deduction to charitable organization.
We are still waiting for the title in the mail (2 weeks). Have not done anything so there is time to learn more if the "gifted" plan is unwise.
I am still learning as we go here :)
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But then no matter what your tax rate is, selling it for $X is more money for you than the same donation value.
Trojan, even if we sell for a dollar wont Medicare look back and consider it an asset for its fair market value at date of sale?
Pepper, thanks for sharing your experience. This will help me with choosing where to donate. Dad's car runs. Needs a clutch is all.
Pans are a bit rusty. Otherwise, a steal. Around 40K miles, VW Fox (1990)
I have been Moms driver for some time now. She can count on this for now. Tried to bring up other transportation but she was defensive and insulted. I believe she does not trust her memory as she often gets details of our excursion incorrect. I make certain to talk about them once or twice the day after to see what she remembers. Also, it is her "getting out and about" time. We always find means to celebrate. Either Wendy's picnic in the car while people watching or an ice cream. It is just like when I was a kid. She always made time for the fun.
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My suggestion, if you are concerned, would be to start putting small amounts of money into a bank account in your name. Twenty bucks a week would be $1000 in a year. They don't look at petty cash and this would give you a safety net.
I have thought about the petty cash part. It will be better than wishing I had done this.
Smiles
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