Just in case mom ever agrees. She has woman that works as personal assistant to elderly once a week. This woman does light housecleaning. And washes the clothes. But doesnt make meals or wash dishes. And my brother makes a mess with pans, utencils, pots, etc. And he leaves them for mom to wash. He would use everything in kitchen before he would rince out anything and put in dishwasher. Mom wont let stuff sit around.
Mom wont eat what brother makes for himself. She has to have very low salt. So she needs someone to make dinner. Refuses Meals on wheels.

If she gets so incapacitated that she has no choice or a miracle happens, I want to know where to start to get help.

Barbara