That's emotional extortion ….. If she's threatening suicide I would call for emergency help and if she's admitted to the hospital you can ask for a social worker to get involved in order to get her some help..... Big hug....xo

most people aren't natural care takers even though we want to be if needed. it's also hard for us to separate emotionally where as nurses and other caretakers are trained on how to handle those types of situations and aren't emotionally attached and can make the decisions made in the best interest of your mom. don't beat yourself up if you have tried and cannot do it any longer. I know you don't want to hate her or have those bitter feelings after she is gone but it sounds like she needs more help than what you can offer her. At some point we all switch roles and the child has to decide what is in the best interest of the parent and I'm sure you will do whatever is needed for her best interest.

very well put. I appreciate the advice.

Get counseling to cope- it is not meant for you to cope on your own. I have gone through issue/parents, I resolved to give all my emotions to the Lord and make myself go back to a mental default of non judgement and love.True love though, Because it is the only way I could make of sense of the series of events, You will get caught up emotionally and it will send you straight to the loony bin- no I am serious- you have to get your happy back,
This is alot-- its alot you deal with- all the issues come tumbling down the mountain at you- your ducking and diving while still trying to have your own life- literally nuts after a while- and at the end of it all it hurts because deep down its love that has you there, loyal to stay there,concerned, I support you, I know your hurt and pain,What works for me is that I grab time for me in those times. I literally have to shut myself off and live selfishly on purpose to have my frequency go back down to its normal level, This is important, Sometimes I would do this and be away for 2 days no phonecall- (but all is secured in knowing parents are straight) and then when I resurface I am restored glowing and I can love upon them starting fresh-not some continuing pick up where you left off of a never-ending winding road.
So seek help- other family members to help out?? Threatening suicide-is she on meds- if so they can make a person act unhinged.his happened with my grandmother- she was on a particular med and it really scared me I was like Who in carnation is this woman? lol.Spoke to her doctor -changed the med and it was better,
Please learn to pull yourself aside in the crazy moments and be your own best cheerleader , laugh, know you aint the only one dealing with it, Hugs Hugs Hugs Big Ones ,

I understand this completely. My 77 year old mother has conditions on the way I help her.
She does not understand that I have LIMITS and do not want to just stay the night when she lives 30 minutes away and I can just go "check" on her and stay for a while, get things done, and then go home.
She says I'm selfish and cuts me out completely bc I will not care of her the way SHE wants it done.
It's frustrating. She tells me I'm selfish and she would NEVER do her mother this "way"....