Caring For Aging Parents Support Group
Caring for aging parents can be a difficul time as we become the caretakers for our parents. This broad responsibility can encompass such services as assisted living, adult day care, long term care, nursing homes, hospice care, and in-home care. Whether you have just started caring for your parents or just need a place to talk, we're here.
I've got two surgeries scheduled over the next two months. My father has had 4 surgeries in the last 4 months for a foot problem. Now he needs surgery on his arm. I've been there for him for all of the surgeries, and asked only that he has the one coming up on a Tuesday or Wednesday in two weeks. The doctor said he wouldn't need the surgery for three weeks so this did not appear to be a problem.
I was wrong.
My father, knowing that I have to work, decided to have the surgery next week. He's refused to change the date. He knows that I live alone(recently widowed) but he wants to get me fired so he can have control over me. He's not feeble, but has always been a controling man who used to beat my mother. He once threatened to kill my husband, so I'm talking high order control. I can not live with him, but I love him and would like to help him. But if I lose my job, my life is over as I know it. He can and will destroy me.
So, I'm here just venting. If I take that much time off, I will have problems at my job. If I don't work, I don't get paid. I have that sort of job.
I'm not going to the surgery. When I asked him to please change it, he screamed at me and said that I was selfish and hung up on me.
I'm so damn tired of this. What with losing my husband and him torturing me for a year(I actually moved in there to help him), I'm just at my wits end. He's left me 15,000 dollars in debt because I gave him the money. Now, I'm barely making ends meet and he's trying to get me fired.
Just so tire.
I was wrong.
My father, knowing that I have to work, decided to have the surgery next week. He's refused to change the date. He knows that I live alone(recently widowed) but he wants to get me fired so he can have control over me. He's not feeble, but has always been a controling man who used to beat my mother. He once threatened to kill my husband, so I'm talking high order control. I can not live with him, but I love him and would like to help him. But if I lose my job, my life is over as I know it. He can and will destroy me.
So, I'm here just venting. If I take that much time off, I will have problems at my job. If I don't work, I don't get paid. I have that sort of job.
I'm not going to the surgery. When I asked him to please change it, he screamed at me and said that I was selfish and hung up on me.
I'm so damn tired of this. What with losing my husband and him torturing me for a year(I actually moved in there to help him), I'm just at my wits end. He's left me 15,000 dollars in debt because I gave him the money. Now, I'm barely making ends meet and he's trying to get me fired.
Just so tire.
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grill tonight with charcoal.....turned out good but had some stuff that I had to feed to Belle and Happy because it was grissley. it tasted pretty good and was a perfect mid rare....
My dad is like your dad. It is like having 5 year olds for parents.
I'm self employed so know what it is like when you don't go to work (no pay and the loss of clients for me). I am kinda lucky right now, because I do not know where my dad is and haven't spoken to him in a month. My dad was living in foster care, but got kicked out because he is a sex offender (tryed to get his care giver to give him oral sex and she kicked him out) and my mom is too upset and asking for his phone number and address of his new residence (hi now has a male caregiver) would be like stabbing her in her already fragile, hurting life right now.
Life sure has some interesting twists!
I meant I was lucky in the sense that I don't have to deal with him at the moment as I am trying to get my mom stabalized 700 miles away.
I will be taking 2-3 weeks off in July to go fix her life....uuuuggggghhhhh