Caring For Aging Parents Support Group
Caring for aging parents can be a difficul time as we become the caretakers for our parents. This broad responsibility can encompass such services as assisted living, adult day care, long term care, nursing homes, hospice care, and in-home care. Whether you have just started caring for your parents or just need a place to talk, we're here.
Mom has been having one problem or request of me everyday for a while now. For a long time it was getting new insurance. And all the problems that caused. She was finnally approved for insurance. The next day she called me. Could I get her size smaller underpants. She lost lot of weight. Next day complaining of the river of ants on kitchen countertop. Next day she is upset her slacks are too big. She ordered a smaller size still too big.
Said she didnt know what size to get. Next d a y phone is causing problems. Not as loud as it used to be. I offer to order new phone. She said brother said one she has is no good. Have to find new brand that works with hearing aids. Yesterday, I call and she is worried about brother. He was sent to food store five minutes from house a long time ago and hasnt come home yet. Dont know what happened. But he did make it home ok. No accident or car break down. Today she needs me to find the two supplimental insurance policys with me as benificiary. Needs to know if they are due to be paid. Compaired to all the other things looking for the policies and calling her back is nothing. But its about the millionth thing or problem in a row.
Barbara
Said she didnt know what size to get. Next d a y phone is causing problems. Not as loud as it used to be. I offer to order new phone. She said brother said one she has is no good. Have to find new brand that works with hearing aids. Yesterday, I call and she is worried about brother. He was sent to food store five minutes from house a long time ago and hasnt come home yet. Dont know what happened. But he did make it home ok. No accident or car break down. Today she needs me to find the two supplimental insurance policys with me as benificiary. Needs to know if they are due to be paid. Compaired to all the other things looking for the policies and calling her back is nothing. But its about the millionth thing or problem in a row.
Barbara
But they still have 24 hours a day, and they can only sleep so much.
So they focus on things that either they can do, or can partially do.
I get traffic reports for areas that I am not likely to drive, and even if I did it would not be a major issue.
I remember that you had a huge issue over insurance. Perhaps you can guide your mother through things. If she orders pants online, find the web site she went to, look up the stuff she ordered, then help her select the right size.
Then have her do the rest!
Gentle hugs
And then, it's time to do a bit of pushing back. Not everything they need has to be done on the spot or within hours of their call.
It's a bit much I know, after all, as Pepper stated, they can't fill up their time 24/7 so they invent things for us to do for them. They'll keep you hopping that's for sure. Well, as long as you let them...