Not sure what to say. I don't really get grams for carbs. We use calories in the states.

Not sure what mom expects from you.
If she is competing with you, I'd say that is not good for her. We each have dietary needs of our own to maintain.
If I had 20 lbs to lose, I'd do it on my own without telling my father. We do have rights to privacy!

I dont think it will hurt her any to scale back the carbs and if she loses a few That might be good for her.

It would depend on her weight and how you are doing the cutting. Most of us could stand to lose a few pounds.

One way that is popular in the US is Atkins. His program claims that by eliminating all carbs for three days tells your body to burn fat. Then you slowly add carbs back in. Problem is the diet pushes protein as a major food source which can be hard on some organs.

30-40 grams of carbs can leave you with a very healthy diet if done right. Seems like having mom eating with you would be a help for you and a nice way to work together. I'd say go for it.

less carbs is definitely the way to go. Of course I know what grams of carbs are! I have a book tht gives the # of grams per oz of whatever food one might be ingesting,, such as potatoes,,, etc. it's not exact but its pretty close,, close enough to judge what /how much to eat.

Cutting out most of your usual carbs is the way to go,,, although it's difficult for all of us,, cuz carbs are FUN.. ha! As for me,, i could use to do what you are doing as im up to your weight myself and i cannot believe i allowed myself to get this way! As for your mom,, at her age she needs all the calories she can get,, unless of course her weight is a problem.. I know my mom's is! She weighs 185 and that's way too much for a woman who is 5'2" tall! That weight makes getting up and around way more difficult! Talk about leadbottom! ;) anyway... hang in there and good luck in your endeavor to lose,,, you have inspired me too!

i had to add this. I bet ive gained 50 lbs since i've been in the house w/ mom and dad since 2007. Too much sedintary living and not enough movement! I need to exercise but i hate it! My husband, the heart patient , who lives here too,, also needs to exercise... but we are procrastinating. When mama naps, I nap,, or do stuff that i wanna do,, which are NOT that strenuous,, I guess im just venting here,, but hey... isn't that wht this forum is for?

again,, wish you luck.....

Yes Janet, venting is what this is for :) . I hear you on the lack of activity.

I do try to keep my life to myself as much as possible. However Mom catches on. She becomes upset that I am secretive. Not all of her days are mixed with confusion. She will have those moments, recognize it, and push herself back to being lucid. Not sure how she really controls this or if it is all one cycle. She is just early into ALZ now.

Her DR is going to send a diet plan. Things written down seem to hold more clout with her.
( I have the diabetic and cholesterol plan for me. It goes with the meds and blood work. Just have to tweak carbs though my intake is less than 40 % . PS It was explained that an enzyme from pancreas breaks down triglycerides. I take meds to help this but may have to increase if diet does not help in 90 days. )

Lack of exercise is so common. I let mine fall away from a good healthy amount to the activity from work. Even the dogs suffer.
What is it about caring for someone that takes our eye off the essentials to live and care for self? I do not want to tell a DR this...I am sure there is a diet and pill for this too!! LOL

I will join a class at Y though. Love the aerobics in pool

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