I'm so over trying to be nice to my mom. She no longer needs a caregiver physically. She is spoiled. She still expects me to wait on her like a servant, like she is royalty. She expects the same from my fiance.

Mentally she is not ok, not thinking straight. We lost my handicapped brother in August. I had to do most of the funeral stuff, what I legally could anyway. She still isn't acting right. I tried to give her some space, I'm sure it's hard to lose a child. But honestly I think most of the problem is she can't do responsible adulting stuff, never has been able to, and legally I cannot help her with my brother's estate stuff. He was a client at my job so I can't give legal advice. She has a lawyer to help her. I was not my brother's legal guardian, she was, and he was in a nursing home. I can't make the phone calls and do the paperwork for her.

I also have had alot going on lately. I had a cancer fundraiser and I had surgery before that. I don't have cancer, surgery was on my eyes. My friend has cancer and the charity event was for her.

Anyway, my mom's health and financial stuff is her responsibility. I've been taking care of her for years, ever since my dad died almost 15 years ago. I just don't respect my mother. Other than being mentally very childish and narcissistic, she has nothing wrong with her. She is obese and has mild arthritis, which gets worse because she sits in a chair all day and won't go to physical therapy or the gym or chiropractor like she is supposed to. She also won't take her meds right. Nothing I can do. I can't force her to straighten up and care for herself. My mom has never worked a full time job. She babysat a few kids once in awhile when I was a kid. Other than that, never worked or had a job, so she has no clue how hard it is for me and my fiance to come home to a house that's a mess because she has been there all day and done nothing. She is not an invalid.

My mom had knee surgery a few years ago because she fell outside and hurt her leg. I had to take care of her for a year, I did everything at the house, all the cooking and cleaning, paid all bills, bathed her, moved her around. She got used to it and now acts like I'm her slave and need to do that all the time when there is nothing wrong with her.

She literally said this morning that she was going to "have the law out here" to get rid of me because I am not doing enough lately. I don't even know what world she lives in. I own the house so she can't do that. You would think since my brother died she would want her family around but ever since he died she has been saying I need to move out and trying to kick me out...when it isn't her house and she has no authority to do so. Right now houses are ridiculously expensive and I don't have money or credit to move.

I'm really tired of dealing with this. I wish I could sell all my properties so I would have some money and move. But I can't without permission from umpteen people because of inheritance bs.

I just wish she would stop being so irrational. She imagined something happened yesterday that didn't. I don't think my mom has dementia, she has always been like that. It's just getting harder to deal with her fantasy world when there is real world shit that needs to be taken care of and she is making a mess of it then blaming it on me. I can't take anymore.