Caregivers Support Group
A voluntary caregiver is a spouse, relative, friend or neighbor of a disabled person or child who assists with activities of daily living and assists those unable to fully take care of themselves. The challenges of a caregiver are unique and sometimes it's hard to find people to talk to who know what you're going through. Join the conversation and find others who...
It is true when your love one dies things as far as non support will go on. It didn't change for me. My adult children knew I was home alone with my stroke husband. One of my kids said that he couldn't bring hisself to come over because out of sight out of mind. It hurt to see his Dad like that. What about lending a hand sometime. My daughter went on living with her live in boyfriend like they are on a honey moon all the time. I have to tell her I need help in raising her daughter I can't do single parenting now. I am still looking for her she treat my heart and grief as non importantance. I am so tired of this family. None of his siblings out of town but couldn't even call to see if he is still alive. But he sure asked about them. Only one of his siblings thought enough of him to call ocassionally but his brothers never lifted a phone to say hello. When he went to his older brother's funeral who would check on him he went to his funeral after his stroke, well his other brothers instead of visiting with their stroke brother my husband they raced each other to see who would make it back to their home. My two sister in laws never called to give comfort for the lost of my husband I been in this family for 39 yrs. No consideration. I am just venting on how you can get what you need from family. You have to venture out and get help from people that are not even related to you.
next...you need to do things just for you. you need to make yourself happy and stop thinking of anyone else....you have taken care of someone , and now you have to take care of yourself.
families can be who we choose, not who we marry into or who we are close to by blood.
find or make yourself a new tribe.
sometimes people run from troubles because they just are afraid...or too selfish. it doesn;t matter their reasons, forgive them, forget them and move on. don't waste your energy on them...use it for your future.
I wish you peace.
That said, we have to set boundaries. Your kids act that way because they can. Possibly you've excused it in the past.
Create your boundaries, rules, and let them know what they are.
And do NOT budge or make exceptions.