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I really didn't know what to title this discussion!
As many of you know, I am caring for my husband with a spine injury. Some of you know we are divorcing- not because of his injury or my willingness & devotion to help him. There are other factors involved in our choice of divorce.
I am struggling with my own humanity by way of compassion for a man I still love, despite our amicable split. I will continue to worry to a degree about him after we finalize.
For those Caregivers whose "time" has ended- how are/have you coped with the ending of one chapter & moving to the next? At this point I am taking each day as it comes & recognizing emotions to not let them get too far.
What do you do to help yourself through the transition?
Much Love to all DS Members!
As many of you know, I am caring for my husband with a spine injury. Some of you know we are divorcing- not because of his injury or my willingness & devotion to help him. There are other factors involved in our choice of divorce.
I am struggling with my own humanity by way of compassion for a man I still love, despite our amicable split. I will continue to worry to a degree about him after we finalize.
For those Caregivers whose "time" has ended- how are/have you coped with the ending of one chapter & moving to the next? At this point I am taking each day as it comes & recognizing emotions to not let them get too far.
What do you do to help yourself through the transition?
Much Love to all DS Members!
For me there was both the sense of relief and despair. Thankfully in some way, I knew the end of my caregiving was coming a few months before the actual event, so I had time to prepare and go through the grieving process before the end.
When the time did come, I did just take it one day at a time. I worked first at removing all the caregiving needed equipment, and in nearly all cases, donated it to the local nursing home. Then came the closet cleaning and more donations. Finally, it was me time and the need to escape from it all for awhile. Now, it's moving on with my life, but at the same time, continue to work with other caregivers and try to help when and where possible locally as well as here on DS. After all, now I'm "experienced".
For sure, take it one day at a time. In some ways, divorce can mimic death in the "loss". Keep yourself busy, and do take care of yourself.
Hugs, Dan
As you know I am still a full time 24/7 caregiver. I can't imagine how hard this is for you. Dan has great advice, hopefully you'll reach your "safe-place" where things will come together and you can continue on with your life.
Many Hugs & Love, Phoebe :-)
I hear how hard this is for you and hope for the best for you.
Sending love and hugs.
Deena