Caregivers Support Group

A voluntary caregiver is a spouse, relative, friend or neighbor of a disabled person or child who assists with activities of daily living and assists those unable to fully take care of themselves. The challenges of a caregiver are unique and sometimes it's hard to find people to talk to who know what you're going through. Join the conversation and find others who...

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johnbaxter 01/01/2008

I'm not sure if I should be posting in this forum, since I am no longer a caregiver. My daughter passed away Nov. 27, 2007. But, if I can be of help or comfort to anyone, I'm available. Care giving is not a static task. It is dynamic, with health changes, doctors advice and orders, insurance issues, decisions regarding hospice services, family involvement (or not), and many other unexpected developments. Each of us have our own special set of circumstances, but often there are parallels with others, if only for a short time. Care giving can become routine, and it is possible to not recognize the changes taking place. My biggest regret is that I didn't spend more time with my daughter during her last week. I was so used to the daily routine, that I failed to recognize how quickly she was fading. I am so tankful there is this forum, and I wish I had found it earlier. The posts I have read are insightful, compassionate, and supportive. I now belong to the Bereavement forum. This forum would have been such a help to me. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your loved ones.

deleted_user 01/01/2008

I am so sorry for your loss.
I very much hope that you find support and compassion in the bereavement forum
(((((((hugs)))))) Monica

MineraPearl 01/01/2008

I too am sorry for your loss. The bereavement site is great. When my former husband & best friend was dying I was in denial and the last 2 weeks I pulled away. I beat myself up for years! It's ok. I have moved on and forgiven myself. I thank you for your comments and glad you will stay here for us!

deleted_user 01/01/2008

we always feel guilt, dont we...*sigh*.......you were such an amazing father and thank you so much for offering your help to this forum..:)

Cathrynn X

deleted_user 01/01/2008

I'm so sorry for your loss... I looked at your memorial website for your daughter and can feel the love that you all had for each other. She was a beautiful woman and blessed to have such a caring Father. How touching that you even cared for her body after she was gone from it.
I pray for God's comfort for you and your granddaughter as you go thru this next part of grieving...
Sympathies,
Donna

deleted_user 01/01/2008

I am so sorry for your loss. You have my prayers, right this moment, for your strenght and you also have my appreciation that you are still reaching out to help others still caring for those who need it so much.

Life is static too I guess, whether we are in a caregiving role or not. But, being a caregiver is so exhausting.

Thank you for being a rock for all of us..

There are days we can roll on by with our own enegry and devices..

And, there are days when we will need a shoulder available to help us pick-up the next foot and keep the journey going.

Again, I am so sorry for your loss.. and so thankful that you are continuing a journey to give help to others.. what a beautiful legacy to your daughter.

deleted_user 01/03/2008

So sorry for your loss. thank you for also sharing your experience and supporting the importance of sharing through this forum. As a daughter supporting her father and mother - hearing you retell what you went through as a father really brings it full circle. It is so hard to watch one's parents move on in life - but it must be exponentially difficult for a parent to go through the same.

All the best to you as you move in your own life now

P

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