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yes, I know that humans mean more...but I got NOBODY, no friends or relatives, and this cat has been with me from his birth; 20 year old cat and me age 55.
poor cat throwing up almost daily, with me hoping its from his fragile stomach; I catch him sneaking dry food that is bad for him, that I put out for another cat, a cat I only got to keep this one company, back in 2006, with the other cat even hating for me to pick him up.
I do wish the cat just goes in his sleep. having to carry him to the vet for 3 blocks, and then afterwards, carrying him home. And the winter scares me----rock hard ground for a burial, with me having to buy a pickax for it.
I had to ok my mom off life support in 2001, and the family dog in 2001, a cat in 2004, another cat in 2006.
When I put the last dog I had for a pet to sleep in 2001, I went on a chat line cause I was all depressed; a woman starting cursing me out, cause she had cancer. I'll, no doubt, be thrown into a pauper's grave when my time comes, probably in next few years, but I hope I wont get that hateful when my time comes.
Alone and poor, dealing with some animal that is sick, really starting to get to me, and I will definitely be even worse the worst does happen, though, hopefully, I will at least be glad that the pain is over for the only friend/family I have.
poor cat throwing up almost daily, with me hoping its from his fragile stomach; I catch him sneaking dry food that is bad for him, that I put out for another cat, a cat I only got to keep this one company, back in 2006, with the other cat even hating for me to pick him up.
I do wish the cat just goes in his sleep. having to carry him to the vet for 3 blocks, and then afterwards, carrying him home. And the winter scares me----rock hard ground for a burial, with me having to buy a pickax for it.
I had to ok my mom off life support in 2001, and the family dog in 2001, a cat in 2004, another cat in 2006.
When I put the last dog I had for a pet to sleep in 2001, I went on a chat line cause I was all depressed; a woman starting cursing me out, cause she had cancer. I'll, no doubt, be thrown into a pauper's grave when my time comes, probably in next few years, but I hope I wont get that hateful when my time comes.
Alone and poor, dealing with some animal that is sick, really starting to get to me, and I will definitely be even worse the worst does happen, though, hopefully, I will at least be glad that the pain is over for the only friend/family I have.
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A tree outside where I live is dying, seemingly from dog urine----with the bully in my building going out his way to not only have his dog urinate there but to have the dog urinate on the fence and sign I bought to try save the tree----and then slide the sign under my apt door.Turns out that was a TRIGGER for me----bullying and humialtion right out of high school. I didn't realize it at the...
Pets are family to alot of us and it sounds like you are a wonderful kind pet owner. I hope your cat passes peacefully in his sleep like you wish.
Please feel free to share your worries, concerns or sadness with us here. This is a good group and we support each other in both good and bad times.
Hugs, Phoebe :-)
Hugs, MelodyJane
I know it's very difficult to do because I've been there, but it sounds like it may be time to put your cat to sleep to end the suffering. There comes a time when we have to let go because it's best for the animal not us, no matter how difficult.
Do take care. Hugs, Dan
I'm sorry to hear about your cat. Mine might have died last year if I hadn't gotten advice from somebody on this site.
Catnip tea for a cat's bad stomach.
Pedialite when a cat throws up, to get his vitamins back.
the vet told me to buy papaya pills, for his stomach, with me just dropping one in water, cause cats and pills...
on this site just a couple days ago of omega 3 fish oil, for people and cats; gonna go to pet smart tomorrow for some.
my cat and me both had some catnip tea last night, which seemed to knock us both us....the reason for this late reply.
yeah, I am starting to think of quality of life for my cat. I could handle if he "just" went in his sleep tomorrow; me having to make a deliberate decision bothers me.
he's using the litterbox, eating, napping, able to get on chairs, purring, today....yesterday was all day meds and such hell.
when my cat stares into space, like yesterday, I know that's bad news; right now he's napping, after various meds.
maybe if I would have had some loving humans in my life in the past, I might not be reacting the way I am to a cat; I just hate seeing him in pain.
For most of the week my apartment was a mess, though even when my cat was throwing up, the place was cleaner. me re-arranging stuff, so less memories of what my apartment looked like for years. stuff thrown away, though slowly by week, to stretch it out, cause its gonna take me awhile to get this out of my system. "self-medicating" for a few weeks before the worst happens---with a letter today from my dr of "abnormal" urine test I took. Was days for me to even want to be in my apt; sitting and pacing in a nearby half empty restaurant was better; I thanked the owner a couple times for putting up with me. And, no shame about talking to store cashiers about this! A week later, I wish my cat was still here, but I'm also glad he's out of pain, and my 24 hours a day worrying about him are over with, too. And, I might as well admit that I cried a lot, too.
I realize, for people caretaking for people that it's like being in the twilight zone, to read about taking care of a cat, but he was in one third of my life, with me around him about 20 hours a day, with no humans for my family.
Maybe others can get something out of this too, for when the worst happens in their life.
Don't know if you've ever read the poem "The Rainbow Bridge" but it is beautiful. Check it out my friend.
Big hugs and understanding, Phoebe :-)
one scary/crazy way of getting over my cat is for me to now start taking drastic care of my own health, after letting it go during depression/worrys over cat.
everybody who is a caretaker should make sure to take care of their own health at same time, as hard as that might be.