Hello again Panda. I'm sorry to hear that you're still having a hard time with this breakup. I think to be a caregiver you have to have a big heart. And that's a good thing. But, like I said before, she needs more than any one person can give. It's one thing if the relationship is established before the need for caregiving. Then, there's a history. A foundation to help keep things together. But when you jump right into the role of caregiver I think it's easy to confuse compassion and lust for love. The kind of love everyone wants and needs.
I'm sticking to what I said before. Take time to get your head straight and then look for someone healthy to spend time with. Being willing and able to take care of someone who is ill is a great thing. But I think maybe you've done it for so long with so many people that you've forgotten what it's like being with people who you Don't have to"take care of".
best wishes

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Oh, panda68- You didn't fail! No No No! You are a winner, you are an angel to give of yourself, and remember this forever!
Please, let go of the guilt, as you did not fail in your intention of being a good person. Your girlfriend/patient is the one unable to accept your caring & kind nature; for what ever reason she internalizes.
Always, always, always feel good about yourself for bring a caring & generous person!
Hugs & Love, MelodyJane
P.S. Captain- you always crack me up!

OOOPS, I typed "bring a caring person" instead "being...." Sorry

Sorry but Captains posts are vulgar and rude. Hate to be so brutal but I find it mocking what we are all about here.

I try to help, support and cheer everyone on, people like Captain & Joshuaturbeville act like we are a joke.

Caregivers, stick up for this group please.

Phoebe

I agree with Phoebe, i haven't been here much recently but have found certain people offensive but kept quiet because i thought maybe i was just sensitive.

Dear Panda, where is the guilt coming from? Having had a heart attacki would suggest that you need to care for yourself. Perhaps if your relationship hadn't ended so badly you maybe wouldn't feel so bad. Perhaps you could visit to make ammends then let her go with peave in your heart?

I should spell check ** peace in your heart not peave!

You are right Phoebe. I stand corrected.
MelodyJane

Thanks Daisy & MelodyJane ! This board is about support and acceptance for all our fellow caregivers here at DS. Being a caregiver is very challenging and difficult as it is and we shouldn't add unnecessary offensive dialogue.

To Captain....you give great advice most of the time, we don't need the crude jokes please friend.

Hugs for everyone, Phoebe

thank you Melodyjane.

Did Captains and the other person get their remarks and jokes removed? I don't see them. I have seen him before in other posts and also found him harsh.
Panda, you are such a loving a caring person to have dedicated all your time and did so wholeheartedly that the undue stress created a heart issue. I am so sorry but there is not a single thing you need to feel badly about. You have do e all you can do.
I was told the same thing as a care giver. "Look after yourself or you will be no good to the person you are caring for" I did the same thing and ended up collapsing and had an arrhythmia attack on my hear, almost died in front of my disabled daughter and had to have a pace maker/Defribrullator put in. I now take care of myself better and allow others to also look after my daughter and do so without guilt because I know in my heart I do all that I can physically do.
All we can do is our best and carry on. You have been an amazing support as well as help others on here. God love you! Peace in your heart and no bad feelings! Ok?
Big hugs xoxo Sandy

Did Captains and the other person get their remarks and jokes removed? I don't see them. I have seen him before in other posts and also found him harsh.
Panda, you are such a loving a caring person to have dedicated all your time and did so wholeheartedly that the undue stress created a heart issue. I am so sorry but there is not a single thing you need to feel badly about. You have do e all you can do.
I was told the same thing as a care giver. "Look after yourself or you will be no good to the person you are caring for" I did the same thing and ended up collapsing and had an arrhythmia attack on my hear, almost died in front of my disabled daughter and had to have a pace maker/Defribrullator put in. I now take care of myself better and allow others to also look after my daughter and do so without guilt because I know in my heart I do all that I can physically do.
All we can do is our best and carry on. You have been an amazing support as well as help others on here. God love you! Peace in your heart and no bad feelings! Ok?
Big hugs xoxo Sandy

I never saw what "captain" said. but thank you to everyone else.