The only thing that stopped my daughters was a sleep aid...trazodone.

Your dreams are your chance to go back and defend yourself.

Supposedly, you can influence your dreams by what you think about before going to sleep. I would try for several nights, as I was waiting for sleep, to plan out my dreams, without violence, but having your say, in the dream. Maybe you could slap them around a little bit. Just kidding. If it doesn't work, nothing lost.

If you watch a lot of violent tv or play violent video games, that could be adding to the violent dreams.

Trazadone enhanced my nightmares but I'm trying to get back on it to help me sleep. And it's actually an antidepressant but it makes you very tired. My nightmares become extremely vivid with it so they took me off of it but nothing else helps either so idk. My nightmares aren't from bullying though.

I don't know how to get rid of them. I don't think there really is a way because we can't control out dreams. I have extremely dark dreams but I just deal with it.

And my dreams are about nothing that I think about during the day or what I do so idk that changing your thoughts would help.

Tnank you all for your replies. thankfully my bullying dreams stopped and haven't been appearing for a while,but if they start again i will try to plan out my dreams by thinking about something positive before sleep.i sometimes have agressive dreams and yes, i do watch a lot of violence on tv before sleep so that doesn't help either.i should stop that,since i also have problems with anger and depression. as far as for trazodone-i have never heard of it.maybe in my country it exists under a different name.i take seroquel XR for major depression disorder-i think that is the name of that disorder.

Try writing letters to the past bullies telling them how mad you are at them. Tell them how bad you were hurt. The idea is to rid yourself of the pent up anger. It is possible that the anger is keeping you awake. The anger will always find a way to disrupt your life until the anger is released. Writing letters is just one way to get the anger out. Be creative.

I had the same situation for 8 years in school (I'm 47 now) it was so bad I had to drop out. I had knives put to my throat, I was made fun of in front of girls and it was so bad I basically just skipped school behind my parents back. All these years later I made up my mind I was never going to let anyone ever push me around again so I worked out, worked out and worked out until I went from a skinny 160 pound kid to now 230 pounds. (I have a photo of my now on my profile). My motivation was always that one bully and thinking of him even to this day keeps me motivated to try and stay healthy and strong and carry myself with a "don't screw with me" attitude in society. Funny thing, after all these years after school nobody ever attempted to push me around and when some guy accidentally bumps into me in the store HE'S the one that say sorry first not me lol I'm not trying to be cocky but I'm juts saying use your bully as motivation to better yourself. I still suffer from shyness and anxiety and I'm sure what happened to me in school has a part in it but don't let it take over your life or the bully wins. Not to be mean but I don't take shit from anyone anymore just because I never ever want to go through what I did in school. Kids commit suicide over bullying and it's a serious matter. Yes, there are people you can go to but I had nobody back then, nobody cared. I got through it all myself and needless to say thanks to the bully "thanks bully" I am in great shape for 47 years old lol I owe it all to him:)