Bullying Support Group
Bullying is the act of intentionally causing harm to others, through verbal harassment, physical assault, or other more subtle methods of coercion such as manipulation. Bullying can be defined in many different ways, but one thing is clear: no one deserves to be bullied. If you or someone you know is coping with bullying, this is the place to share your feelings and get...
My daughter is 13 yrs and has been bullied since she was very young. When she was in grade school I had to go to the school 10 times before they did anything. Even called a conference with the teachers and counselor and principal. She would come home with bruises on her arm all the time. I am now having the same problem with the middle school and am in the process of having another conference. She has expressed suicidal tendencies. I am not primary custodial parent and her father refuses to put her in counseling. She is overweight and poor and goes to a well to do school where most of the girls are very skinny and parents have a lot of money and she is being picked on because her father and I don't have a lot of money to spend on nice clothes for her and her weight.
I am disabled and not able to work trying my best to take care of my daughters needs while dealing with a chronic illness that keeps me in bed most days. Her father was abusive to me in our marriage and she saw a lot of hitting and verbal berating. I'm at a loss because most of the time I don't have the strength to help her the way I want too and an event like going to the school and confronting staff is very wearing. She has no one to advocate for her except me and I'm very concerned If there is anyone out there who has been bullied that can help me handle this situation with her and the school the best way so that she does not have further psychological damage that would be great.
I am disabled and not able to work trying my best to take care of my daughters needs while dealing with a chronic illness that keeps me in bed most days. Her father was abusive to me in our marriage and she saw a lot of hitting and verbal berating. I'm at a loss because most of the time I don't have the strength to help her the way I want too and an event like going to the school and confronting staff is very wearing. She has no one to advocate for her except me and I'm very concerned If there is anyone out there who has been bullied that can help me handle this situation with her and the school the best way so that she does not have further psychological damage that would be great.
Yes, this is certainly emotionally challenging for her. Its too bad that her dad prefers not to seek treatment though. However, your daughter has rights and privileges and especially as she is still underage. Have you talked with DHS? I would. And this may not be an idea that your dh will agree with but something smart has to be done in this matter, right away. Good for you to open up for insights.
I dont think that this burden is coming because of your financial status. I believe that is insignificant. The girls at school have strong behavioral issues and they really should join with your daughter in seeking emotional counseling. You know that your daughters clothing choices should have no bearing on her as a human being. She is in school for a proper education and not to be showy as a stylish model. This is senseless behavior and ideas.
Now is really a good time for you all to draw closer together as a family, too. Even with therapy, your daughter will still need family support for the purpose of emotional healing, and surely your dh will agree with this. Are you encouraging your daughter to be strong, think positive, and you may simply use other resources than that of active skilled counseling to do this. You may find a local community support group, of which she may get free or reduced counseling and even some churches have youth groups where your daughter may be comfortable expressing her emotions. She simply needs others to talk to and listen to her for understanding. And I understand that she feels immobilized at this time. However, she has a voice and she deserves speak out and hopefully this will help to get back to normal emotions. Have you considered encouraging her to stay active at a support community online? This is a good idea.
Please do your research online and search in your communitys area; perhaps there is another way to get her help in which her father will support the idea(s). You are good to be helping your daughter. I hope that you find a health outlet with this matter.