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We just moved to a new town in July. My son has always made friends easily and never had problems in school. But since my oldest sons father took off with him and my best friend (who was his god mother and extremely close to eachother) got murdered my son has lost all self esteem and social skills. He has a big heart and it gets hurt easy so I think the children know he is a easy target. He is on the heavier side because of medication he is on which I am sure does not help. My son has never been violent but since starting this school in Sept he has been physically assaulted on 8 occasions that I know of. He is now starting to become more and more angry and recently lashed out on a teacher. He had been punched by a student at recess, then mocked by another student in class and when the teacher tried getting him to do something he didnt want to do I guess he hit his breaking point and head butted the teacher twice and punched him 3 times. I have been in contact with the teachers, principal and even the school district and nothing is being done. When he was cornered in the bathroom by three boys one kicked him and my son told him he is not allowed to do that, the kid hit him again and he yelled at the boy to stop and that it is not ok to hit. My son was the one who ended up getting in trouble for yelling and the other student got off scott free. I offered my son to switch schools and get a fresh start but he insists on staying that he does not want to run away from his problems and is determined to make these kids his friends. While I admire his strength it breaks my heart when he comes home crying. What can I do to help him?
I saw your other comment about getting your son a cell phone so he can communicate with you. That's a great idea...and your notes to him will keep him inspired! Plus, you've given him the option of switching schools if he wants. As a survivor of bullying, I believe having options is key so that the child knows the situation is not hopeless. Your son has been through a lot (personally) and could probably benefit from some kind of counseling. I'm thinking maybe group counseling so he doesn't feel so alone in his grieving? Check your county and see what's offered for free. You're obviously a wonderful mom who loves her boy. I wish my mom did half of the stuff your doing! ;)
I would start with the counseling and see if that helps him...but also I would let him know that having a fresh start is not running away, it's just taking a different path.
Teachers are not there to protect students and rarely intervene.
I think with my son knowing that he can defend himself with the martial arts if he needed to boosted his confidence. He has not had to use it and he hopes he never does. Also a tip for any parents with children going through the same thing another thing that helped my so. Is I wrote a letter to him every night and put it in his lunch box so halfway through the day no matter how it is going he gets my note and it is usually telling him no matter what I have his back, I love him, proud of him and he is my best friend. He loves those and even his teacher said she noticed a difference when I started doing that
Make him watch videos from this channel:
https://www.youtube.com/user/creativecombats/videos