Bullying Support Group

Bullying is the act of intentionally causing harm to others, through verbal harassment, physical assault, or other more subtle methods of coercion such as manipulation. Bullying can be defined in many different ways, but one thing is clear: no one deserves to be bullied. If you or someone you know is coping with bullying, this is the place to share your feelings and get...

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supportplease 10/26/2008

I am a quiet person and have 2 kids who are not so outgoing and tend to be picked on. Our doctor recommended an amazingly helpful book called Don't Call Me Shy by Laurie Adelman. The book helped me understand how my thoughts (and my children were able to see how the way they thought about themself) led to our shy uncertain behavior. Because of this book I've and my kids have learned to stand up for ourselves and we have developed confidence and a good feeling about who we are.

This book is wonderful and I recommend it highly for anyone who needs to build self confidence and self esteem, no matter your age. It doesn't matter if you are shy or not, you will get ideas of things to do every day that will help you learn how to put yourself out there with confidence and that will make you less sought after by bullies....and if you are bullied you will be able to stand up for yourself.

That book has made my kids and I feel so confident and secure about who we are that lately we have decided to ignore bullies and act as though what they are saying doesn't really matter to us - -and they leave us alone.

deleted_user 10/27/2008

Thax for the info...I will try to obtain the book for my family...

deleted_user 10/27/2008

To be completely honest, i was bullied when i was at school quite badly really, and the worst thing my mum could say to me when she could be bothered to litsen, was ignore then because it just made me feel as though she did not care. If your children are being bulied it can be hard to help, after all you can't be there to protect them all the time. Make sure your listne to them when they get upset and tell you there getting bullied and re-enforce confidence into them, by spending time or oing a new activity with them amongst adifferent group of people. By telling them to ignore the situation doesn't help because all ur telling them is to burry there feelings and your redusing their self esteem, i still feel badly from the affecfts of bullying on me hen i was at school. x

supportplease 10/30/2008

I agree that a parent needs to really listen to what the child is telling them. A child needs to know you are on their side.

deleted_user 10/30/2008

Helen4c,

I feel the same about my dad although I was adult when I said I wanted to talk about bullying in childhood, laa he wanted to do was brush it aside.

I hardly speak to him now because of it. I feel sorry for my mom because I won't give them a call in case my dad answers.

I know it is wrong but I feel like he rejected me when he said that.

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