Bullying Support Group
Bullying is the act of intentionally causing harm to others, through verbal harassment, physical assault, or other more subtle methods of coercion such as manipulation. Bullying can be defined in many different ways, but one thing is clear: no one deserves to be bullied. If you or someone you know is coping with bullying, this is the place to share your feelings and get...
Hi, I wanted to raise awareness for an issue that no one ever talks about. I am speaking as a woman who was abused for years by my husband and since finally escaping from that, I have met nothing but more discusting creeps. I know better than most people how abusive men can be to women and it is not ok, I am a strong believer in women’s empowerment against domestic violence. I even feel like after what I have been through, I probably never want to be in a relationship again. But now I am a single mom raising both a son and a daughter. I have a very sweet and sensitive teenage son and also a very sweet 10 year old daughter. My son is just the sweetest boy and my daughter has always been friends with a lot of boys ( as well as girls) she has had some really nice boys as friends and also had experience with some not so nice boys who have already had crushes on her and showed it with violence, and I have been try my best to teach her that is not ok and there are some really nice boys. She has a best friend who is a girl that has shown behavior, along with some other girls my daughter has been friends with and also some girls who have had crushes on my son have also been this way. I think a lot of girls are getting the message from their parents and also from a lot of tv shows that kids watch that it’s ok for girls to be mean to boys for no reason at all, just because they’re boys, that they are always the victim and boys are terrible and beneath them and don’t deserve any respect. I worry about my son being around these girls and I’m also trying to teach my daughter that is not ok. No one has ever brought this issue up before, and it is a huge concern to me for both of my kids to be exposed to this
First to say is that this group is not as busy as it should be, especially during this really hard time of life where bullying is really a definite struggle for most school age children. And it is so wise of you to show concern for not only your son and daughter, yet you are concerned for the safety of friends of your children as well. It is so important that or kids understand thoroughly how to handle or manage abuse in its full ugliness, and I agree with you that the social media (tv, internet & radio broadcast) is a big influence in the matter of how kids are recklessly guided these days. Seems that kids are actively seeking for seemingly that "star-like" quality type of life, which we, as experienced adults, are responsible to challenge such thoughts and ways to the real world life, by which the circumstances or consequences of bad choices is not always the way we see happening inside of a movie script. In the real world we feel the tragedy and it is certainly not a made-up thing, it's real. And we suffer when bad choices happen.
You tell of your daughter being influenced to disrespect boys. This is play-acting; she is no doubt following the crowd, so to speak. Surely, she is a good girl. Have you considered managing the use of television for the direction of more appropriate shows & movie watching? Perhaps an evening planned around school activities for doing activities more encouraging to less violent relationships is a good idea. Use the comfort of your own home and invite school pals over for a cookout; crowd around for a scene of friendly conversation, laughs and peaceful fun. Know what I mean? Home is the best place to encourage examples of learning good principles, assuring that these kids can see that there are more values in life than keeping up with the crowd, of which people are visiting the internet or television as a source to be popular. It is an error to allow children or young adults to be raised by media influences.
I am sorry that you, Rachel, were the victim of abuse. Yet the experience from the tragedy will greatly inspire you to seek for the better of your own children's lives. Mothers are such a powerful figure in the family, and a great protector. I feel sure about you as a role model. It is good of you to use your power to control your children, save them from the pain of ignorance too. Be a force of strength. I admire you! :-)
Many hugs & I hope for you and your family the best to come.
Mix of words; please excuse if I left the impression that your dear daughter is influenced by television to disrespect boys. Yet it may be the other way around too. Boys are easily influenced by channeling of ideas relating to movie star images wherein they admire the female body, while floating aimlessly mischief thoughts through their imaginations. At least, it was that way many years ago. Bless them as they mature to be less possessed by this :-)
Ah-ha! I smile at you for your thoughts on fathers and their girls. It is true that dads are overly protective at certain times. I never had that problem though. I was raised, just as with your children, by a single mom. And when the day comes that your children date, I do hope that the boy or girl of interest meet standard social qualifications :-), and this may simply be good breeding and good manners. Bless you & it was a pleasure to chat with you today! *hugs*