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Gaslighting?

cavyqueen
cavyqueen
Hi. So I have Bipolar Depression and in the past I've had mania (of course), experienced with my (now ex) partner and I. Recently I broke up with him. Before this, many times, I have tried to get out of the relationship with him. But he would constantly tell me that I was just experiencing mania, even during times I wasn't. He is now doing it again, and I know I'm not experiencing mania, I know that truly don't want to be with him, is this gaslighting or is he in the right to assume so b/c of the past? TIA.
mamie1890
mamie1890
Hi
Sorry that nobody has responded before now.
Sounds to me like you ex is manipulating you by
blaming everything on your mood disorder.
Have you talked to others (friends, counselors, family)?

He may not be able to accept the rejection. You
will need to be strong: if you're sure that you are
not "manic", I would trust YOU.

Good Luck
prairiedog19
prairiedog19
I have experienced this as well with my partner but also with my family - I have had to distance myself from them but even though it's been a few years i still suffer the affects of this treatment! It's funny how people use this to ab! use and cover up their own behaviour! That's how i see it, I nor you deserve to be treated like that and you are better off if they don't change to distance yourself as well but it will stay with you for some time. !! I think this is the worst kind of abuse because of the condition your already doubting yourself and the people you trust are abusing you - using your doubt to trick you into thinking your the problem! What cowards they are!
4reals
4reals
Hi all, thank you for mentioning gaslighting -- it's something I've stumbled onto, which is absolutely making sense in my work scenario. I feel like they try to make me look like the over-sensitive/crazy one with their passive/aggressive behavior. Any insights on how to deal, or tolerate, would be appreciated. Hope you are doing better since your post, cavyqueen.
Novembergirl1950
Novembergirl1950
I experienced with for a lifetime before my psych doc straightened me out on all this.

Do you have EA in your employment. That's an "Employee Assistance" program thru HR that will assist you in dealing with all this. Since it's workplace bullying and gaslighting, do you want to be moved to another p[ace at your employment?

Start a new thread on Gas-Lighting or Bullying at Work. Just a suggestion. I wasn't going to respond as when I started to read I saw this thread was started 3 years ago and no responses since then, then I read your recent post.
sport
sport
My 1st marriage resulted in Gas-Lighting could guess what was up.I later took test and found to have autism+dd which found out autistic fall for Gas-Lighting more than average people.
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