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I have attempted to communicate that my husband's comments are unacceptable. I have had unexplained fatigue and significant weakness in my legs and arms for the past year without a diagnoses yet. I'm still perusing medical help. So far MS, Lupus and Myasthenia Gravis has been ruled out.
My husband feels embarrassed that I use a cane in public. I know that his attitude is his problem, but it is also hurtful to me. He doesn't like the appearance of having a struggling wife who is 16 years young that feels the need of extra physical support. I don't know if it is because it reminds him of his own age or what. He makes rude comments which I've called him on it, but he still isn't stopping the comments, asking me not to use it even in front of family and saying "can't you hurry up, or walk faster." He uses the excuse that we'll I don't want that for you, but he don't say it like he feels badly for me. It said in a prejudice tone. I done want to use it but I would rather if it helps me with mobility. We took care of his Mother who chose the wheelchair and to be taken care of because she was afraid to fall in her older years. I see cane use as a temporary situation for moving forward.
I was bullied as a kid from 1-9 grades and though I've tried hard to speak up for myself and ask him to stop this, he continues and its feeling like those old messages of not being acceptable to the opinion of my peer. I feel like I'm expected to be strong for him and this doesn't fit his picture.
How can I help myself against his verbal insults and communicate better that this is unacceptable verbal treatment??
My husband feels embarrassed that I use a cane in public. I know that his attitude is his problem, but it is also hurtful to me. He doesn't like the appearance of having a struggling wife who is 16 years young that feels the need of extra physical support. I don't know if it is because it reminds him of his own age or what. He makes rude comments which I've called him on it, but he still isn't stopping the comments, asking me not to use it even in front of family and saying "can't you hurry up, or walk faster." He uses the excuse that we'll I don't want that for you, but he don't say it like he feels badly for me. It said in a prejudice tone. I done want to use it but I would rather if it helps me with mobility. We took care of his Mother who chose the wheelchair and to be taken care of because she was afraid to fall in her older years. I see cane use as a temporary situation for moving forward.
I was bullied as a kid from 1-9 grades and though I've tried hard to speak up for myself and ask him to stop this, he continues and its feeling like those old messages of not being acceptable to the opinion of my peer. I feel like I'm expected to be strong for him and this doesn't fit his picture.
How can I help myself against his verbal insults and communicate better that this is unacceptable verbal treatment??
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In regards to your husband... whatever happened to "in sickness and in health"? Maybe he only signed on for the "good parts" of marriage. You may want to consider whether that is true, and whether he's worth keeping.
There may also be the possibility that whatever is happening to you physically is a manifestation of the tension you've been experiencing in this relationship for a long time. A voluntary suppression of knowing that it is not good for you.
Just a possibility.