Sometimes after being bullied I feel depressed and hopeless. I just lock the door and don't go outside for days or weeks. I sleep too much. I can't think happy thoughts.

I agree. My ex-husband and current biz partner has been bullying me for years. We divorced 6 years ago, but he got half the biz, and now he feels free to not show up, demands a weekly salary and threatens me constantly. I'm exhausted, and scared and weak. I never used to feel this way. I was the strong girl, the one with a spine. Now i'm just a quivering bowl of jello. What the hell happened to me?
I can't eat. i hardly sleep, i can't function at work, i can't see any light at the end of the tunnel. If i do, i hope it's a freight train and it kills me quick.
How does anyone get through this?

Hey guys, i know exactly how you feel. Bullying is terrible and very quickly causes you to get depressed.

I was bullied all my childhood and adolescence and emotionally exhausting is an understatement.

For 2 years i used drugs and alcohol to hide behind my problems which were definitely somewhat related to my childhood bullying problems.

I completely get your point about locking yourself up and isolating yourself, I have been doing the same thing myself until very recently, but its actually not a good solution and you only see just how much it makes the situation worse once you've got yourself out of the rut.

Recently i was able to come to terms with my issues though and for the first time ever i went to see a counselor at the Salvation Army (i''m not religious and you don't need to be). I tell you just having someone who you can talk to face to face confidentially about ANYTHING without having to feel embarrassed or ashamed is a great thing.

If you haven't already tried it, i really cannot suggest more that you do, even if you really feel like you don't need to (like i did for a long time) there's no harm in at least going and seeing if it can help you.

I completely relate so much to you guys, i really feel for you. If you want to talk or just ask me anything at all please contact me I know what it feels like to be the one who everybody picks on and nobody respects. I've very recently managed to overcome what you guys are going through right now so maybe i can at least offer you some hope and somebody to talk to who can relate to your issues, without having to worry about being judged.

Don't give up hope and just remember its not your fault you are feeling this way!

if u ever need to talk im here .... i know what it feels like to be depressed and hopeless trust me its not a good feeling but there is hope i promise so just msg me anytime always here promise

I agree. It is something that can become a bit overwhelming. I always tried to find humor in it, and take back the power where possible. In my case, I was able to leave the situation, and so I simply motivated myself by counting down the days until it was all done. I knew that I had to get away from what was hurting me, or I would not be able to be me again.
The only problem was that I was prompted to write a book about my experience, which caused me to relive it continuously. In the end I found that I can't control who people are, but I can control if I interact with them and if I hold on to the emotions they made me feel.
During the experience, prayer helped me a lot. Well, until the bullying extended to my church...then it became me showing that I wasn't scared...thus entered paranoia and pride.

I used to feel that way too, I know it doesn't seem this way now but believe it or not it DOES get better! That's only if you allow it to though, what I mean is I know it's hard to deal with it and it seems hopeless but really there are people around you that seem hidden but are out in the open that are willing to help! You just need to let someone your comfterable with / trust know about this whenever you feel ready... As soon as you let that person know and they generally care about you, they will do whatever it takes to help!

If you need to talk about anything please let me know I will help in anyway I can :)

well i have alot of emotion exhastion because of alot of things but i usually do something to take my mind off of things like play games of=r watch funny videos on youtube

You and God knows how many other bullied kids act and feel as you do. I know they are trying to work on this but they aren't working on it fast enough as far as I'm concerned. Don't these bullies realize that they are causing the bullied to be more suicidal, and can turn them into something we don't want to think about but have to. Where are their parents, what type of people are they? Why do they not have repercussions for what they do? Something has to be done, like yesterday. Hugs GB

I don't know. It breaks the heart and soul.

I was just recently bullied here at DS. Someone who did not like my words to another (despite being written kindly and total concern).
She freely admits those words were nothing but kindness.
So to support her theory that they are WRONG, she lies and says they are only "pretend kindness"

Sorry stupid computer cut me off for some reason.

I am drained. I don't want to visit with friends.
I nearly did not go to choir practices which reduces pain and lifts spirits. But I forced myself to go.

It helped a little.

DO you think the bullies get how painful it is?

I changed my status to "time to give up on life"

@ sunnybun they dont care how painful it is, they are callus to the person they are bulling. they build up in there minds you are the enemy as if you stole something from them, i went through being bulled on my old job. are you in a work environment or school environment, did they bring in race, creed, color or sexual orientation in the harassment. if u want to fight it in a wise way i say shine the line let it be known what they are doing. start documenting names times and dates and carry around a little voice queued recording device. get it all down you if its race, creed, color or sexual harassment you could have a big lawsuit for this establishment. the light needs to be shined on people like that. the other alternatives you don't want to consider, if you turn on yourself and harm yourself they win they will sit back and laugh. and if you turn on them and do u know what, you will end up in jail for the rest of your life. plus i rather you be smarter and wiser other options have big brother come down and say u guys better leave my so and so alone. those are the options if i left anything out u guys let me know. did you already try standing up to the main one, i tried that he just kept pushing the issue with chat to the other ones then two of them took up where he left off, so now numbers were against me. and the only way to combat that was to start documenting what they are saying and recording them in the act.

What I learned to do was find a quiet place (safe,secure,0 interruption s) put my head phones on and just blank my mind. After that I would think of what the bully will try and think of ways to counter his attacks.
Learn a form of martial art like jujitsu ar some MMA. And go from there. Email me if you want some pointers jmozes33@gmal

Sunnybunn - you asked in # 10 if bullies realized the pain that they cause.

IMO - not only do they get it - but causing pain is one of their motivators.

Bullies seek to exert power because somewhere in their lives they feel powerless. Most bullies I've known/been a victim of have some kind of social/personal deficit and seek to fix this by exerting power over others. The only way I know to counteract bullies is by standing up directly and/or going to an authority above them and speaking the truth.

I know this is hard in business/personal relationships where there's no clear authority etc...in that case I'd say document everything in case of a legal case but still go forward.