Bullying Support Group
Bullying is the act of intentionally causing harm to others, through verbal harassment, physical assault, or other more subtle methods of coercion such as manipulation. Bullying can be defined in many different ways, but one thing is clear: no one deserves to be bullied. If you or someone you know is coping with bullying, this is the place to share your feelings and get...
hi, i am new to this group, i was a victim of bullying all my life, still allow myself to be walked over sometimes, now i have a daughter with aspergers and she is bullied constantly and it brings back bad memories
read this book its called
Bully in Sight
by Tim Field
it should be at your library
Aspergers is a challenging condition
Being your child you will have love and compassion
for her
others will not , this is life unfortunately as you
know
keep coming on here
educate yourself about bullies
there everywhere
some are clever some are not
Tell yourself and your daughter that you deserve RESPECT
those who do not give it are very sad people
and keep coming on here
you are not alone
keep smiling
you are special
As to yourself, do the best you can and try to help people based upon what you experienced. Personally, make a point to stand up for yourself.
Having been bullied, I had an experience. My son wanted to play in a game (technically he was not eligible but almost everyone didn't mind) but one guy objected. I was upset, and we started pushing one another during the game. He asked, do you have a problem, you better watch yourself. I told him, HOW ABOUT I DO WHATEVER THE F... I WANT. The pushing got harder, I was ready to fight,ultimately things got broken up.
Afterwards we became real good friends, and when he suffered a fall, I offered to drive him to the hospital. However, I was glad I stood up for myself, and was ready to fight if needed.
It is not your fault! I have begun keeping a journal and watching my behaviors and those people that I feel disrespected by. I am also doing a lot of observing: my behaviors, my internal feelings and thoughts and responses to those and the behaviors of these people with myself and others.
Some people are the way they are with everyone. I saw a woman at work snap at me. Since she had snapped at the wrong person I told her this and she proceeded to find the RIGHT person to snap at and proceeded to snap at her. This person, smiled and said, "Oh, OK" and then winked at me. She did not get upset as I would have.
This taught me that this lady is a bully with almost everyone, and dismissing her is much more powerful than reacting as this is what she wants and how she derives her kicks.
I hope that this doesn't leave you feeling like it is all up to you because it isn't.
I also have a son with a similar d/o to Aspergers (nonverbal learning disability--on the spectrum). I too worry for him
but see similarities in our behaviors--sensitivity, being scatterbrained, etc...lol.
So it will be harder for your child,but fortunately there is so much awareness out there about Asperger s. Join a group if you can, get a counselor for your child.
sorry to be so long winded. Take Care.