Breastfeeding Support Group
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Hi all,
I told myself that with my second baby I would do all the things that i w lacked on or struggled with differently. Fast forward a couple of years and.....hello! Everything's the same! Lol
When my second son was born I really wanted to try nursing both, but low and behold the first night home was a disaster. And so that is how my first son was weaned ( which I still feel terrible about)
Now my youngest who is now 22 months is a nursing fiend( possibly mores that the first!) He nurses to sleep which means nap times and for bed AND when he wakes in the night, which is often.
I really enjoy nursing, but I'm kind of feeling like I need my bed and my body back.i also know I selfishly did it for other reasons like 1) it's easy, we cosleep and so when baby wakes at night I am always right there and don't have to get up and 2) daddy CANNOT handle crying at night whatsoever and so subconsciously it was done to avoid fights and grumpy daddy going to work in the morning.
But the result is a child that must have a nipple in his mouth to go to sleep, otherwise a lot of crying and even screaming follows.
Part of me feel like a horrible mom for not trying harder to make sleeping more about soothing instead...I don't know what to do!!
I told myself that with my second baby I would do all the things that i w lacked on or struggled with differently. Fast forward a couple of years and.....hello! Everything's the same! Lol
When my second son was born I really wanted to try nursing both, but low and behold the first night home was a disaster. And so that is how my first son was weaned ( which I still feel terrible about)
Now my youngest who is now 22 months is a nursing fiend( possibly mores that the first!) He nurses to sleep which means nap times and for bed AND when he wakes in the night, which is often.
I really enjoy nursing, but I'm kind of feeling like I need my bed and my body back.i also know I selfishly did it for other reasons like 1) it's easy, we cosleep and so when baby wakes at night I am always right there and don't have to get up and 2) daddy CANNOT handle crying at night whatsoever and so subconsciously it was done to avoid fights and grumpy daddy going to work in the morning.
But the result is a child that must have a nipple in his mouth to go to sleep, otherwise a lot of crying and even screaming follows.
Part of me feel like a horrible mom for not trying harder to make sleeping more about soothing instead...I don't know what to do!!
It might be easier to move him to his own bed first before weaning him. We always had his bed next to our bed. This will allow you to switch to cuddling instead of offering breasts if he needs help getting back to sleep. Some children sleep better in their own bed also as they get older too.
I'm not sure what you are doing at nap time. This might be the easiest one to eliminate because at least you won't be losing sleep if he has trouble getting to sleep without breast. Give him a snack and then cuddle.
Unless he decides to quit cold turkey, try to eliminate one feeding at a time.