All you can do is remain No Contact. Reaching out is driving him further away. Why did he leave?

I am in a similar situation. He barely talks to me if I call him. I saw him this morning. The conversation deteriorated quickly. It makes me sad.

During separation the least you say about
Anything Personal the better off you will be.

Keep it to the Business at hand only, no chit
chat, they Are not your buddy anymore. Use
Email or text do not call them if at all possible,
Watch Your back financially and legally.

Is he a checked out spouse? Does he have a
GF? If he is good luck getting anything out of
Him so you feel better, HUGS

The downfall didn't go suddenly. I think we both got too frustrated, too tired, to burnt, to overwhelmed until it got the best of us. It is his reaction about everything that has happened. We both played very well the role of distancer-pursuer. The last thing he said out of anger was that the next time he will talk to me will be about divorce. I am in a limbo as I cannot just walk away on assumptions. He is not communicating at all. I love my husband very much! Oh, why do people keep hurting each other when good love is so hard to come by? A part of me wants to know really what is his decision and yet a part of me doesn't want to know. I am not ready to hear something more that can hurt me. The pain is already crippling me.

Your answers will come eventually, i hope
You are in Therapy just for you to talk it all
out and to Get some guidance.

You can not force solutions and you can only
Fix and control yourself, HUGS

I learned that if you keep pushing for answers that you push them farther away. As hard as it is just let them be. I know it sounds like a total opposite but if they want to talk to you they will....maybe after realizing the sensation that you may not care anymore either he may come around. Keep hope but don't let this be the only thing that runs your life. Learn to love yourself and things will get better for you.

So sorry you are going through this. Do you have people supporting you? Family? Friends? Counselors are good at giving you a safe, professional place to let your emotions out. Taking care of yourself- emotionally, physically, and spiritually- is so important. Hoping you can find the support and love you deserve and need at a time like this. HUGS!

I can so relate. I can't communicate with my wife because of an injunction that makes it illegal. Only through attorneys. She left me and it broke my heart into a million pieces. I prayerful for the opportunity to speak to her before a decree. I just want the opportunity to ask... is this really what you want?

to lovefaith and jules, yes, your partners don't want to be partners with you anymore
and they don't respect you enough to say why, they don't love you enough to come clean and own their choices

you each still love them and trust them, do not trust someone that won't give you the simple respect of honesty

love them? that's a waste, your love should go towards someone that would cherish it

What do you think guys about moving to a new place while dealing with the death of marriage or probability of that? A job was offered to me in a different country and I was awestruck that the place of work is just an hour and half away from where my husband got his new job. I am just concerned what if along the way, my husband finally talk to me and tell me that our marriage is over. I am very sure I will need to have time to grieve and being in a new place with all the adjustments, not having anyone around, and tied with work commitment will be very tough for me. I don't really know what is his decision about us so it's difficult for me to make the choice not knowing where it will bring me.

Advice I've seen is don't make such drastic changes so soon after a divorce. Maybe wait a year. I'm sure it's different for everyone, a change of scenery might be good. But are you considering the job to pursue your husband that split? That wouldn't be advisable

Thanks kbbcoop77. Of all the places, that's the one that gave me the offer. Yes, I see it as a very drastic move if I have to do that..dealing with all the many changes and adjustments while I am going through this turmoil and chaos. Moving to a new place will be good when I am ready but right now I realized that what I need is to be in a place where I am at home and be surrounded by people who I trust and care about me. Wish my husband will tell me we are going to work on our marriage even we are physically apart. Truth is I also need space at this time, as long as it is mutually agreed, I am ok with it. But my wish is not happening not even a hint of it happening. He remains distant and he seems already moving on and making plans with his life excluding me. Only miracle can save us at this point. Pain is beyond words.