This is the hardest thing to do, I believe, is letting go of the one you love in order for her to find her happiness. The fear of someone hurting her in the future overpowers the thoughts of that same someone providing her with exactly the life and love she is looking for - which may not be something you can provide.

I am going through the same thing and it is terribly painful. However, I am focused on remaining as positive as I can and enabling her to find true happiness and love in the life she wants. While you want to give her more, letting her go may simply be all she wants from you, which will be the most loving thing you may be able to do.

Hang in there, it gets brighter every morning.

Right im trying man it so hard cuz of what she says to me. Idk if it is hope of false hope. I do belive my wife really rruly still in love with me i think she wants to see change my way. Right now she wont open up cuz if she does she will fall into me thinks things will go back to the way they were.. i cant say for a fact she will be back but i can hope and pray and everyone know my situations. Say its so obivoius we will be back togther some day. I dont see it but i guees them looking from the outside in they have a better eye veiw i guess... i told her today very nice words very nice things that got me very far with her. There are a bunch of sign that she wants me back but just change to be honest with you... but hope pray

How long have you guys been dealing with this or struggling? Something that stands out to me a bit is the following:

"i told her today very nice words very nice things that got me very far with her. There are a bunch of sign that she wants me back but just change to be honest with you... but hope pray"

Our experiences may not be 100% similar, however, I can say that one of the things that sent us into the downward spiral and ultimately to where we are today is my over-zealous commitment to try and change her thinking and do things selfishly so that she "just gets back to where I knew we could be". That ruined us and nearly ruined our friendship.

She may not open up simply out of fear. Allow her time and space to open up to you on her terms. It may be tomorrow, it may be next year. But allow her the time and trust she needs to talk to you.

Yes well weve been strggling for awhile but i made most of the mistakes. Yes that pretty much what i tell her. I tell her i love her and ill wait etc i just want her to come to me. I dint want to push her in anyway what so ever. I just tell her how i feel. I dont see anything wrong with that we got two small children togther as well so there will always be communication

All of this is exactly what im going through. Its like reading my relationship book. What the hell is wrong with us? How can there be the same type of relatuonship problem's out there. If i had known that this like this could happen in every relationship then i should of just been a whore instead of saving myself for the right girl. Im angry that you to and so many can go through what im going through as well. Im also relieved that im not the only one. I have bo advice but this. We all choose the path's we walk.

Yes i know we choose are own path and there is alot of relationships problems like all of ares
Do you belive it is truly over?
Do you belive that it can be fixed even if that meana starting over?
Mabey im in denial idk but i belive i can get my wofe back and we can be happy again