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Yep you guys were right

Imlosingit
Imlosingit

Not my best move on going on the 17day out west trip with, now soon to be ex. And getting the yep we're getting divorced 2 days after we got back didn't help. So now all those wonderful words of wisdom I had before are now in the trash along with my heart. Having divorce now being made such a real thing, has pulled up all the hurt, disbelief, anger, whys, how could you's, everything all over again.  Totally sucks! And he seems like it's all good now. Made it through vaca, getting divorce, can live on his own. What more could he ask for?!  Sorry bit bitter over here. Why do men get to crush a woman's heart, leave them, after telling them for years how much they love them, do this without seeming to have a care, and then wonder why this is a problem for us? It's mind boggling!  Clueless!!! They are clueless! Im back to men suck! And I want them to.....grr.   Looks like this kind of heartbreak isn't easy to get over. You keep getting sneak bomb attacks. I've been doing my best with that on top of now having to push up the time of my getting radiation treatment on the rest of my brain tumor. Need to make sure it will be covered under his health insurance. It will take 28 weeks, and after that I get to have my hormones checked for the rest of my life. It just keeps getting better. Finally got someone to take me seriously on all memory and other brain problems I've been having since the brain surgery. 3-1/2 years ago!!! Have my first appointment Wednesday. So you can see that this is the perfect time for my husband of 28 years to want to call it quits. He said he'll make sure he can cover the insurance. Compassion has left the building!  I'm tired of hurting. Why can't they hurt?! 

Broken9
Broken9
:( I'm so sorry you're going through all of this... there isn't much I can offer you other than to say, take care of you, look after you and your health, and heal you... in the end you will be better, feel better and make a life for yourself, and be better off for him. There is someone out there for you, who will care for you and provide you with the respect you deserve... in sickness and in health is a real thing, and this man was not willing to give that to you, if roles were reversed - I doubt he would have been in the same boat.. knowing this, know that you are a better person, and you deserve better... stay strong, you will get through this...
Imlosingit
Imlosingit
Thank you broken9, what you said is true. I am a better person, and I deserve better. It's always hard to see when "The hole in your heart keeps filling with tears".
Katya12
Katya12
I am so very sorry this is happening in your life. It is terribly heartbreaking. With your brain/radiation issues, it is time to take care of yourself - your health....physically, mentally and emotionally too.
Do you have a close friend? Someone to support you in this time? Family? A pastor at your church?
They can undergird and strengthen you and help you make good choices. It is a shock and a grieving time. 28 years is a long time. Don't give up. Seek help for yourself. On the outside chance, would your husband consider counseling? It may be worth a try. Just take one day a time. It's ok to cry. I will say a prayer for you.
copingwith2
copingwith2
I am sorry you are going through all if this at once. I wish i had great words of wisdom and something to take the pain, but I don't. All i can say is stay strong for you. I am learning each new day brings a reason to keep moving and a reason to crawl back under the covers. I don't know how they can be so mean and clueless. It is heartbreaking.
Imlosingit
Imlosingit
Thank you both for you well wishes. They do help. And no time for counseling is long gone. I do have a friend who has been a great blessing to me. And God/Jesus is always here with me. It has been great to have the mixed support and advice from all. Gives me a chance to see things from different sides. I'm hanging in there. My melt down has cooled down a lot for now. Taking today as my day to do whatever floats my boat. Putting no pressures on. A day of just me. Helping even better that H has already left for his music gig, and I'm totally free till at least 11:00pm. Hmm maybe I'll order pizza. :) hugs back to you
Imlosingit
Imlosingit
Oh copingwith2. YES men can be VERY cruel and clueless. The turds.
sjs777
sjs777
it is neither male or female as I can assure you my wife walked away just as carelessly. That said time does heal, but you'll need to look to push yourself forward. surround yourself with support, try new activities, mourn the loss, and realize you are a great person. you deserve happiness! you're not alone!!
tejema
tejema
I'm so sorry and feel really sad as I read this post. I am sorry you're hurting right now. Give yourself time and it's OK to be angry and sad. Be real and open with your feelings and give yourself time. Lots and lots of time. Hang in there, come here often. We're here.

-TM
jojored
jojored
Get the offer to cover insurance in writing! Cobra only lasts 3 years, after that you have to obtain it through your own employment, or the open market. I found Cobra from my ex's employer to be cheaper, with better coverage. Only used it a month.