when we set our priorities properly, construct home lives and social lives that are ideal for us, then choose employment that enriches us instead of draining us, then we have so many positives filling us up that we can fairly easily sidestep the negatives.

these are skills that we each have to learn. otherwise, others' dramas will always weigh us down.

Oh !! Balance, well, I am good at it, I am fine managing it on my own, which is not healthy,because we all need a partner, right? so I reach out to my stbx, I am unbalanced after. All story.

I don't know Heave, I know what you mean though. You are a great guy and I hope you find your happiness and peace very soon.

How has time on the boat been treating you?

People are always telling me that I deserve this and I deserve that. Deserve has nothing to do with it. I would just like to find happiness again and stop fighting depression. DAMN IT, I was doing okay until I got that bomb dropped on me tonight. Now I am sitting here feeling down again.

Life is a game of cards, we play the hand that we are dealt. That Damn Dealer is a crooked bastard and he keeps dealing to me from the bottom of the deck. I should shoot that bastard!

I can go on a date, just get of your boat!

I just got of the phone with my friend, forcing him to call back that girl, damn. If you need my intervention, I am here))))))))))))

Awe damn it.....I am also thinking that I am too damn impatient and I want things to happen NOW! I always want things to happen right away and they never do. I am not a patient person, at times, and no matter how long I have to wait for something the more impatient I become.

A good chunk of my adult life I have been dumped on and shit on. I was walked all over in my marriage and the place I use to work. No matter what I did I was ice skating uphill.

Why is my time in the sun when I am in solace and away from other people? Why is it that the only peace I find is when I am sailing out and not looking back? Why do I dream of the open water? The reason is that I have been stomped down so much that I have very little faith in people. The one person I put all my faith in threw me out like a dog. I feel like a stray and mangy mutt looking for a new home.

Yeap, I believe you, all is better than date with me, not to speak of the relationship, marriage, OMG!)))))
You do not need to get of from water for anyone. Just for that one person, just for a date or more....

Heave you need to sit back and look at your priorities.

You can sit and think you get more shit than good, but in reality you are probably pretty even.

You have a job, even if it is not something you want to do, it is a job which many do not have.
You have your health
You have your boat that you love
You have good friends, I can only speak here, but I am sure you got some decent friends outside of DS
You got family to fall back on, even if they drive you nuts.

There is so much that could be wrong in your life and you are missing what is good.

If this is about a relationship or a woman, I would say keep it simple and keep it slow. Since you started dating threads in the last few months I have thought you might not quite be there yet.

I hope none of this comes off in a bad way as I am trying to point out you have the good and need to focus on it and yourself. If you can stop and smell the roses, they are that much prettier.

Best of luck to you.

Yep....there is some good in my life. I am just saying that I don't see the same amount of good coming back in life as I put into it.

I have been in the dating world for a while. This doesn't have as much to do with dating as it has other things. Where dating is a part of this and I have some fustrations with the whole dating world, I feel that I have some well deserved paybacks that should be forthcoming.

Over a year ago I was driven from my home, lost my wife, dealt with loosing a job, and had health issues.

Yeah, I have my health, for now, but it is always a battle. Yep, I have my boat and I sail all over the place but it isn't always as much fun when you are alone. Trust me, there are demons that a person faces when they spend a lot of time alone.

I don't ask for much. My saying is that I ask for nothing more than I am willing to give. I would just like to get when I am asking for and that is all.

You need a kick in a butt with dating, I kick my friends butts, regulary. I am not into her
... whf? is she nice? yeah, good enough looking? yeah, so what are you looking for ? Just saying, kick your own butt, I am in NY.

my side of the dating is usually that I am interested but she isn't. SOmetimes it is the other way around but when I am not interested, she has thrown up a few red flags and she doesn't match the traits that I know will compliment my personality.

I refuse to settle!

Yeah, I totally know what you mean. I also feel as if, I didn't want too much, and I was willing to give a tremendous amount for it--but still couldn't accomplish it. Life is mysterious that way. I know you are feeling bad about it tonight and seeing more of the bad than the good, and I hope tomorrow is a better day for you.

no, don't settle. ugh. No balance here either just yet--sometimes our lives are not all filled up to the brim with good things and the balance is off......we'll get balanced eventually! Hugs!

Settle, or not, do not give up! Do it, I know you can, If you almost asked me on a date)))), I would go! Keep on looking, do not be picky, I am and its my fault.....