This is horrible and I understand the shock and anger that comes along with him telling you this! Marriage is hard and takes work, so when someone decides to give up, it adds to your load. I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this, especially with being away. I am not sure why you had to move away, but I can say that if you truly desire to be married that God is the most important place to turn. There are so many factors in this World that make it easy to choose the exit, but I encourage you to Fight, (Not in a physical abusive or verbally abusive way), but in a loving and gracious way. Perhaps your husband feels guilt or shame or something he has done and wants to save himself from these emotions. He may even feel like he is doing you a favor. I know selfish, but so are most humans! I encourage you to not take his request as the end, but use it as a start to building a healthier more functional marriage, built on Gods solid foundation, and meant to last a life time!

Why is he saying the relationship cannot be saved? Has there been any prior discussion about the marriage not going well? In other words, were you blindsided? Was there discussion about you moving to another state for a job? He may be resentful that he now has to change jobs to accommodate what you wanted. (I am assuming you wanted to change jobs and move.).

He knew all of this and he can keep his same job and just do a transfer.

If he is not giving you any reason why the marriage can't be saved, have you suggested marriage counseling? It is difficult at best, when a marriage is breaking up, and you don't have all the information to make a decision based on facts. Maybe it is a sign that you have to wait two months before you file. Take one day at a time.

Wow, I can see so much of my marriage in this post. My husband also blind sided me with a divorce. We were happy one day and then the next was bad. To be honest there is nothing you can do to change your husbands mind. The best thing to do is to work on yourself. This change is going to be really hard and its going to take a lot of work to get yourself back to being happy and being the person you know you can be. I personally have been going to counseling as well as an in person support group (which at this time is just me and two therapist) but this all helps. These people are helping me find me and are encouraging me to take care of myself. Because in the end, no matter what happens, you are the most important thing to yourself. And I can say from experience it gets better. I am still struggling yes but I am better than I was before. It gets better.

The saddest part is I know his best friend talked him out of it. He has been an issue since we've been together. It's even worse that he lets him dictate his life...

The more you can emotionally detach from
Him the clearer things will get.

Sometimes relationships are broken and
you can not or they should not be repaired.
He sounds very emotionally immature and
Emotionally unavailable.

The best thing is to keep working on you and
Healing yourself. You can not fix or control him
Only yourself. Its has taken me awhile to get to
Acceptance stage. HUGS

He sent me a text stating he still thinks about me everyday two days ago, and I blocked him from contacting me again...wow, what a shit show.

Have you expressed your concern to your husband...i.e. how you feel his decision is being influenced by a friend? Or is there no more discussion to be had? Does he want to stay together? He says he thinks about you everyday... It sounds like there are mixed messages being sent. Has marriage counseling been attempted. Then, of course, the question is, do you want to save the marriage? Did he ever transfer down? Sounds like many unresolved issues. Did he ever tell you why he wanted the divorce?

We went to marriage counseling last year and most of it was over his Bromance with his best friend. Clearly nothing has changed and his best friend influenced him to not come down here. I'm tired of the games and just the emotional abuse. I am so exhausted.