Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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For the past couple day I've been pondering something, would moving somewhere new help in moving on with my life and trying to take my life back?
Recently I had been in contact with some family members and oddly enough, when it comes down to maybe what I should do next, most are quick to tell me I should move into some place new, something never shared between myself and ex-fiance.
My closest friends and family know the difficulties I'm currently going through. I've told them that I have done the normal stuff after a breakup, removing almost all of anything that could be a visual reminder of her, moving the furniture in the home to try and give it some new feel, doing lot's of cleaning, ect. ect. ect. I'm doing the normal stuff but I can't stop feeling panicky, anxious and depressed!
Even with my home almost looking totally different than it did when my ex-fiance was here, still it's as if these walls are filled with the ghosts of memories and are screaming at me. the other nights collapsing to the floor thing because the situation and memories paralyzed me, I don't know, I've done all the normal stuff, but my mind likes to drift off.
Say I'm in the bathroom, I look over to the now empty other sink and remembering, we used to stand here together brushing our teeth at night, all the while trying to talk with toothpaste in our mouths, sounding weird and acting cute. Or I'm in the kitchen and remember how much she loved to cook, knowing that she stood over my stove 100's of times making her classic meals, sometimes it's hard to handle. Or looking at the living room floor and remembering that for fun we would wrestle on this very floor, on this carpet and were having the time of our lives.
I'm trying the best I can to let go as much as I can and move on! But something about this home is just haunting me!
If need be my Mom is willing to co-sign and help with deposits at a new place, and my rental staff are willing to release me from my lease, with very little penalties.
So before I go off and perhaps to some do something rash, is moving a good idea? Can moving help give someone who's going through what I'm going through a fresh perspective and fresh start? Has anyone out there done what I'm contemplating doing? And how did it work for you?
Recently I had been in contact with some family members and oddly enough, when it comes down to maybe what I should do next, most are quick to tell me I should move into some place new, something never shared between myself and ex-fiance.
My closest friends and family know the difficulties I'm currently going through. I've told them that I have done the normal stuff after a breakup, removing almost all of anything that could be a visual reminder of her, moving the furniture in the home to try and give it some new feel, doing lot's of cleaning, ect. ect. ect. I'm doing the normal stuff but I can't stop feeling panicky, anxious and depressed!
Even with my home almost looking totally different than it did when my ex-fiance was here, still it's as if these walls are filled with the ghosts of memories and are screaming at me. the other nights collapsing to the floor thing because the situation and memories paralyzed me, I don't know, I've done all the normal stuff, but my mind likes to drift off.
Say I'm in the bathroom, I look over to the now empty other sink and remembering, we used to stand here together brushing our teeth at night, all the while trying to talk with toothpaste in our mouths, sounding weird and acting cute. Or I'm in the kitchen and remember how much she loved to cook, knowing that she stood over my stove 100's of times making her classic meals, sometimes it's hard to handle. Or looking at the living room floor and remembering that for fun we would wrestle on this very floor, on this carpet and were having the time of our lives.
I'm trying the best I can to let go as much as I can and move on! But something about this home is just haunting me!
If need be my Mom is willing to co-sign and help with deposits at a new place, and my rental staff are willing to release me from my lease, with very little penalties.
So before I go off and perhaps to some do something rash, is moving a good idea? Can moving help give someone who's going through what I'm going through a fresh perspective and fresh start? Has anyone out there done what I'm contemplating doing? And how did it work for you?
If you stay, find ways to divert your mind from going to those memories, if possible. I've had a rubber band around my wrist lately and once I find my mind doing the over reminiscing and analyzing the relationship, I've been snapping the band hard and yelling STOP and then purposely thinking of something pleasant not related to my ex. Anything to get your mind to stop going to the past.
Good luck!
Not telling him where or when or anything. Changing all my numbers and they will be unlisted. He is not welcome in my life anymore. Not my life, my heart, my head, or my dreams. The only way I can find to completely evict him...is to move away