Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Have you ever met someone, who, pursued you, said all the right lovely things, claimed they were in love with you, fell in love with them just to find out yrs later, they were only using you for money, status, or something else?
I just ended a relationship this week with someone like this and I'm just reeling in pain and feelings of stupidity. I saw the signs along the way, discussed it with him many times, and I bought the lies and manipulation. I doubted my gut feelings and listened to his lies. Well after 2 yrs I finally stopped and expressed to him exactly how I felt, and he finally admitted to me he loves me in a friend way. I now realize it's been this way from the start. Him leading me on, lieing to me, putting the blame back on me for not letting go of my former partner who passed 6 yrs prior. All for financial security, nice lifestyle and companionship. I realize it's for the best now, I'm glad I finally demanded more, wasn't going to be patient any longer and we have now broke up. I'm glad. But it still hurts that I allowed myself to be so used, put up with such loneliness emotionally, waiting for him to come around, and I finally realized it wasn't going to happen, and I was a fool. He is gone this weekend, but is coming home tonight, I'm not sure how I will handle this but I sure could use some others stories of how you maybe made the same mistake and how you got your ego and heart back together.
I just ended a relationship this week with someone like this and I'm just reeling in pain and feelings of stupidity. I saw the signs along the way, discussed it with him many times, and I bought the lies and manipulation. I doubted my gut feelings and listened to his lies. Well after 2 yrs I finally stopped and expressed to him exactly how I felt, and he finally admitted to me he loves me in a friend way. I now realize it's been this way from the start. Him leading me on, lieing to me, putting the blame back on me for not letting go of my former partner who passed 6 yrs prior. All for financial security, nice lifestyle and companionship. I realize it's for the best now, I'm glad I finally demanded more, wasn't going to be patient any longer and we have now broke up. I'm glad. But it still hurts that I allowed myself to be so used, put up with such loneliness emotionally, waiting for him to come around, and I finally realized it wasn't going to happen, and I was a fool. He is gone this weekend, but is coming home tonight, I'm not sure how I will handle this but I sure could use some others stories of how you maybe made the same mistake and how you got your ego and heart back together.
Yes I've been through this. As much as it may hurt now, you will be so much better as soon as you go No-Contact and move on. You don't need that toxicity in your life.
Narcissists rarely ever change. If you allow her to stay in your life in any form, she will continue to use you in any way she can. Cut and run, and don't look back. The first step is to respect yourself enough to see her for the manipulator she is and say "no more, period."
Big hugs and much strength to you.
so, yea, it wasn't really wasted
It just so happens, he is unemployed right now, has been looking for a job for the past 2 months, and we plan to have a talk, this week, about where we go from here. He has moved into the guest room. When I can handle it, in the next day or two, I will have a talk with him about expenses, have him sign a document, about paying rent and so on, and we will try to separate as easily as we can. He wants to get a job, move on with our lives independently, and hopes we can still be close. He says I deserve a great love again, after the loss of my first long time partner to cancer, and he no longer wants to hold me back from that. He expressed that he would love to remain room mates, keep our relationship as close to what it has been, going forward, with the knowledge that we are just wonderful friends who love each other greatly. I love that he said that and more, it helps, at this point I have no idea wether I can do that or not, only time will tell. Thank you all. I wish I could delete this post though, it is so angry, and I don't feel that way anymore!
When you realize that you are just a thing to be used, it is torturous to your heart, soul, and spirit
Just realize that it is better to be discarded than to still be used as a thing by a self centered monster