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A well-known speaker started off his seminar holding up a $20.00 bill. In the room of 200, he asked, "Who would like this $20 bill?" Hands started going up. He said, "I am going to give this $20 to one of you but first, let me do this." He proceeded to crumple up the $20 dollar bill. He then asked, "Who still wants it...?" Still the hands were up in the air. "Well," he replied, "What if I do this?" And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty. "Now, who still wants it?" Still the hands went into the air.
"My friends, we have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20. Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We may feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value. Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to those who DO LOVE you. The worth of our lives comes not in what we do or who we know, but by WHO WE ARE. You are special-Don't EVER forget it." If you do not pass this on, you may never know the lives it touches, the hurting hearts it speaks to, or the hope that it may bring. Count your blessings, not your problems.
"My friends, we have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20. Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We may feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value. Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to those who DO LOVE you. The worth of our lives comes not in what we do or who we know, but by WHO WE ARE. You are special-Don't EVER forget it." If you do not pass this on, you may never know the lives it touches, the hurting hearts it speaks to, or the hope that it may bring. Count your blessings, not your problems.
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if I walked that path I wouldnt be doing it for the $20
amazing
I think we get stuck in patterns of thought. That shapes our worldview, how we feel and how we act and react. The longer we are in a certain thought pattern, the more it reinforces itself, becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Maybe start each day with a few minutes of positive affirmations? Repeat them to yourself throughout the day? When negativity creeps in particularly strong, try this:
Sit down. Relax. Take a few slow and deep breaths. In and out. Then inhale slowly and deeply, saying to yourself "Let". Then exhale slowly, saying to yourself "Go'. Repeat this several times.
If you find this brings an amount of calmness back, try repeating several positive affirmations to yourself.
Make it a daily habit. Stick to it. Everything starts with our thoughts. They mold our reality. Start to reshape your thoughts. Your way of processing negative thoughts and thinking of yourself in a more positive way.
Hope it helps.
P.S. I meditate at night, but I also have a routine to relax myself prior to attaining a meditative mind. I also use the same technique every morning, even though I don't follow-up with meditation.
I seat myself, close my eyes and take a few slow and deep breaths. Then I start with my feet. I inhale and focus on concentrating my energy, chi if you will, there. Then I slowly exhale, release the chi and all the tension in my feet. Then I repeat with the ankles, then calves, knees, thighs, etc... all the way to my head.
Then I repeat the process two or three times for my entire body. I find it totally drains all the tension out of my muscles, leaving me amazingly relaxed.
After surviving that climb, and especially the boards & chains, I bet a cup of anything tastes amazingly good! :-)
Me, I like green tea with some honey and a lemon wedge. I do like my coffee too, but just the Plain Jane store brand Arabic medium roast with a touch of half & half. ;-)