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Worst day EVER!

diemjs
diemjs
The short of it is, fought with stbx, big time.

He called the guy I am (was, now) seeing and told him I dont know what.

I called his GF to retaliate.

She later textes me and threatens me with restraining order! (I called her ONCE!)

BF dumps me!

My mom is all over me about what is going on.
(Yes, Im 41, Yes, I live with my mother. No other choice right now.)

If only...
deleted_user
deleted_user
What kind of grown man plays those games
deleted_user
deleted_user
As tempting as it is retaliation only makes matters worse, but I feel your pain. Is there a way you can move a little and don't let the stbx know about any dating etc..
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sounds like it hit the fan. Just sleep on it. That's all I can say?
deleted_user
deleted_user
to Searching the kind that have no gentleman in them i.e. a JERK
deleted_user
deleted_user
What's with the boyfriend. If he knows you why would he even talk to your stbx let alone listen to anything he says. What a crapy day. But perhaps you saved yourself from another bummer relationship. I hope things get better. ((hugs))
deleted_user
deleted_user
*HUGS* i'm sorry you have to deal with this. (and don't feel bad living w/ your mom---i know sometimes we just don't have a choice til we get on our feet--it happens!). hopefully the BF reconsiders (if he's worth anything, he will...) next time, try not to stoop to STBX's level (afterall, there is a reason you aren't with HIM).
diemjs
diemjs
I've come to realize its a chest game, and I aint playin no more:) Let them do all they want to me, they really cant do SQUAT! I love this site:)
deleted_user
deleted_user
Tell him it is time to stop the game playing. If he is jealous, then he needs to know that he lost that privilege.

Either he wants you or he doesn't. And since he has a girlfriend, it seems he doesn't.

This kind of turmoil is not good for you. Who needs the drama?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yuck! I hope things get better for you.


P.S. Nothing wrong with living with family when you are trying to get back on your feet. I have to do the same at the moment.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i agree with sockpuppet,sleep on it, if you can even sleep,calm down and tomorrow see what happens.i bet the boyfriend will call.if not call him.
deleted_user
deleted_user
it's time to take time for yourself, don't talk to ex, ex's gf, or the guy that just dumped you. talk to mom, let her know that although you appreciate living there, right now, you don't want to talk about any relationship issues, that you need time to get things straight in your own head. take this time for yourself, be with yourself, love yourself, respect yourself, stop letting people pull you into every direction. stand strong. you need time to clear your head. be selfish.