Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Since my ex-wife left the house, I have been sleeping in the family rooms (1st or 2nd flr depending where I fell asleep). Two week ago, my Therapist told me that I'm going through avoidance on many things like sleeping outside the master bedroom I shared with my ex-wife, going out, watching movies, etc. After gathering courage to sleep in the room, I started going through my lows again. It's so overwhelming that I broken down and started crying. For the last few days, it's been a struggle to make it through the day without breaking down and cry. I miss ex-wife terribly. I love her so much, and I'm mad at myself for continue feeling this way especially after she bail out on our marriage.
How do you stop loving someone who doesn't want you in their life?
to heal from her. The detaching and the grieving Will
take Awhile so be patient with yourself.
There are a lot Of feelings and emotions to move
thru and to Face. We all need to own our own part
in the divorce. I know i stayed too long and i needed
To own my own stuff too.
Its okay to still love them in your heart until it Heals
and hopefully you get to a place of indifference. Time
Takes time when you are grieving.
Trying to repress F&E is not healthy or healing. Often
People Have a hard time with their new reality, its pain
filled and its not what they wanted. When you finally
Get detached its a lot better and you have more clarity.
Your young enough there will be someone else and probably
much better Suited and it will be a lot healthier relationship.
HUGS
In my surroundings and i still grieved and i still needed
to get to a place of detachment from him.
I would get triggered by people, places and things.
I felt this internal tug of war going on. My battle was
inside of me, as i was trying to detach from him and
Face my own demons, define my reality also own my
uncomfortable feelings and emotions that had to be
processed, faced and come to terms with and hopefully
let go of, HUGS
I wish I can easily just pack up my stuff and move. Everything in my house has memories of my ex-wife. Sleeping in the room just trigger so much great memories - many mornings where I told her I have everything I need right here, her proposing in front of our 4-legged kids, etc. This is the hardest assignment that my therapist has given me. It's killing me inside every night. My days at work are suffering now. I'm afraid my anxiety might come back.
This weekend I'm planning to make some changes. I hope it helps or else I might need to sell this house. It sucks because this is my dream house that I bought before I met my ex-wife.
separation it gave me great comfort living and sleeping
There. Staying after the divorce was just not a viable option.
The only way i would sell if i could Not afford to live there.
It is probably giving you more comfort Than you know. I live
in An apartment now and that would have been awful when i
Was crying so much.. I use to tell my old neighbor to ignore me
if he happened To hear me. I had all my stuff around me And
my cat and all was familiar, HUGS